tikitatas wrote:When we harbour resentment, it just adds to the burden of baggage that some of us have carried too long. Don't forgive and forget. One of my Buddhist teachers teaches "forgive and remember" and learn, and move on. Live in the moment.
tikitatas wrote:When we harbour resentment, it just adds to the burden of baggage that some of us have carried too long. Don't forgive and forget. One of my Buddhist teachers teaches "forgive and remember" and learn, and move on. Live in the moment.
Yeah. Yeah. I know. And don't poison her cat.
ILY, Mal. Really.
Cate
"When you realize how perfect everything is you will tilt your head back and laugh at the sky." ~ Buddha
tikitatas wrote:When we harbour resentment, it just adds to the burden of baggage that some of us have carried too long. Don't forgive and forget. One of my Buddhist teachers teaches "forgive and remember" and learn, and move on. Live in the moment.
forgive...forget...remember...semantics..be gentle to thyself first....
-------------------------------------------------------- There is no place like Cabo in the winter
tikitatas wrote:When we harbour resentment, it just adds to the burden of baggage that some of us have carried too long. Don't forgive and forget. One of my Buddhist teachers teaches "forgive and remember" and learn, and move on. Live in the moment.
Yeah. Yeah. I know. And don't poison her cat.
ILY, Mal. Really.
Some of us just have a very special path we need to follow...and I don't mean the short-yellow-hockey-helmet path either!
tikitatas wrote:When we harbour resentment, it just adds to the burden of baggage that some of us have carried too long. Don't forgive and forget. One of my Buddhist teachers teaches "forgive and remember" and learn, and move on. Live in the moment.
I like that very much.
Roll with the punches, play all of your hunches...come what may... POW-MIA, YOU ARE NOT FORGOTTEN!!!
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tikitatas wrote:When we harbour resentment, it just adds to the burden of baggage that some of us have carried too long. Don't forgive and forget. One of my Buddhist teachers teaches "forgive and remember" and learn, and move on. Live in the moment.
forgive...forget...remember...semantics..be gentle to thyself first....
Just so.
Cate
"When you realize how perfect everything is you will tilt your head back and laugh at the sky." ~ Buddha
tikitatas wrote:When we harbour resentment, it just adds to the burden of baggage that some of us have carried too long. Don't forgive and forget. One of my Buddhist teachers teaches "forgive and remember" and learn, and move on. Live in the moment.
forgive...forget...remember...semantics..be gentle to thyself first....
Just so.
no fair speaking Buddha
-------------------------------------------------------- There is no place like Cabo in the winter
tikitatas wrote:When we harbour resentment, it just adds to the burden of baggage that some of us have carried too long. Don't forgive and forget. One of my Buddhist teachers teaches "forgive and remember" and learn, and move on. Live in the moment.
forgive...forget...remember...semantics..be gentle to thyself first....
Just so.
no fair speaking Buddha
Big hugs, bump!
Cate
"When you realize how perfect everything is you will tilt your head back and laugh at the sky." ~ Buddha
tikitatas wrote:When we harbour resentment, it just adds to the burden of baggage that some of us have carried too long. Don't forgive and forget. One of my Buddhist teachers teaches "forgive and remember" and learn, and move on. Live in the moment.
I don't forgive, I don't forget, I DO hold grudges. Sorry, but that's just the way it is.
tikitatas wrote:When we harbour resentment, it just adds to the burden of baggage that some of us have carried too long. Don't forgive and forget. One of my Buddhist teachers teaches "forgive and remember" and learn, and move on. Live in the moment.
I don't forgive, I don't forget, I DO hold grudges. Sorry, but that's just the way it is.
But the fact you're a mean, nasty old man is part of your charm!
As one who has generally been too trusting and too forgiving if a person sticks it to you once and seeks atonement for the harm, I can understand forgiving her. However if she says that she has done this or other unfriendly acts to you before and will do so again, then there is no reason to remain friends since this isn't a true friendship. True friendships are a two way street that require trust and anyone who says that she will knife you again isn't trustworthy.
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The Lost Manatee wrote:As one who has generally been too trusting and too forgiving if a person sticks it to you once and seeks atonement for the harm, I can understand forgiving her. However if she says that she has done this or other unfriendly acts to you before and will do so again, then there is no reason to remain friends since this isn't a true friendship. True friendships are a two way street that require trust and anyone who says that she will knife you again isn't trustworthy.
SweetMelissa wrote:Last week I found out my best friend of 5 years betrayed me, and I'm not talking a little betrayal..this is big.
I've never been a forgiving person, I believe that if someone hurts you once it's their fault, and if they hurt your twice it's your own fault. I'm famous for not letting this happen and cutting people loose. I just don't deal with it.
She admits what she did, says she's done it before to me, and will most likely do it again. she admits she lies to me, and to others about me. She just doesn't sound stable.
So my question is am I wrong to be so unforgiving all the time, and how do you handle things, do you forget and move on, or do you send them packing.?
she really dosn't sound like much of a friend to me - send her packing
Well...(said in my best Bubba voice) I've been on sabbatical.
tikitatas wrote:When we harbour resentment, it just adds to the burden of baggage that some of us have carried too long. Don't forgive and forget. One of my Buddhist teachers teaches "forgive and remember" and learn, and move on. Live in the moment.
forgive...forget...remember...semantics..be gentle to thyself first....
Some good wisdom there.
Sorry you're dealing with this, Melissa -- it's not fun. If she's not apologetic and says she'll do it again that's something I would keep very handy in my mind...basically I wouldn't trust her anymore...and trust (at least on some level) is a key element of friendship (at any level). I'm glad your lease expires in December and not in September. Hang in there!
"Reading departure signs in some big airport reminds me of the places I've been"
And don't poison her cat.
There is no place like Cabo in the winter
POW-MIA, YOU ARE NOT FORGOTTEN!!! 
Hang in there!