Coconuts wrote:ejr wrote:I must be getting old!
I'm 26 and would call BS on that one. If you should bring a gift, you shouldn't have to bring the food, unless they hired you (and paid you) to cater it. I do appreciate it when people tell you in the invitation where they're registered though, that tends to save at least one phone call (and let's face it- in almost every case, that's an invite to buy them something as much or more than it is to hang out.)
BBride- Have you seen the fun tropical stuff at Target?!! I could spend so much money there it's not even funny!!
I'm with Coconuts. The purpose of any shower I have ever been to was to give presents. It's only recently that I have seen where they are registered included in the invitation. I appreciate knowing, because even if I buy it somewhere else, I'd rather know what kind of things they like/want/need, and I can check the list to see what has already been purchased for them, so I don't duplicate it. But if all that is left is something I can't afford or the opposite, only little stuff, then I'll get what I please.
But informing people not only
that they have to cook, but also
what they have to cook - well, that is so unclassy. It's rude and thoughtless. What a nerve! If she needs help with the shower, I can see calling on a few close people (for instance, fellow bridal party members) and
asking if they can help. But to "throw" a party where you've basically ordered everyone else to be your unpaid caterers - I'm not sure I could be that polite and just go along with it. If it were something that involved, I think I would call her and oh so politely tell her - not ask, tell - that although I would not be able to make this elaborate salad, I would be happy to bring a tossed salad (or suggest something else). And I would be prepared with an answer in case she asks why not. I would make it simple, not something she could keep pushing.
