Tact and Kids

kurt · Post by **kurt** » September 11, 2004 7:38 am

Okay everyone,

We are planning on having a party and on the flyers that we are putting in the mail boxes we would like to say politely, 'no kids'. Though my wife and I love children, we want this to be for the adults- Buffett style

. These are people that are not close-close friends (street get together) and we need a tactful way of saying this. The best phrase we have seen so far was, "Our children need a break from us too..." but that was from the house next to us... (Don't want to be a hack...)

Those with children (or those without) please help!

semitruths · Post by **semitruths** » September 11, 2004 7:44 am

I would think that a simple 'adults only' .... maybe with mention of adult drinks and adult atmosphere ..........

Sidew13 · Post by **Sidew13** » September 11, 2004 8:10 am

semitruths wrote:I would think that a simple 'adults only' .... maybe with mention of adult drinks and adult atmosphere ..........

I agree, Be staight forward, so there would be no confusion. Let them know Adults Only, because of Adult Drinks and the Adult Atmosphers

ragtopW · Post by **ragtopW** » September 11, 2004 5:54 pm

I have to be tactfull all day I have none left.

(how about) IDs CHECKED AT DOOR

RinglingRingling · Post by **RinglingRingling** » September 11, 2004 6:39 pm

I prefer direct..

If we wanted the little drooling, pooping, jelly-smearing animals at this event, we'd have done the invite in colour crayon and spritzed it with "essence of grape jelly and kool-aid"

HsvParrothead · Post by **HsvParrothead** » September 11, 2004 6:44 pm

RinglingRingling wrote:I prefer direct..

If we wanted the little drooling, pooping, jelly-smearing animals at this event, we'd have done the invite in colour crayon and spritzed it with "essence of grape jelly and kool-aid"

I take it RR doesnt have kids

Wino you know · Post by **Wino you know** » September 11, 2004 6:48 pm

I've gotten many party invitations with the words "Please-no children, thank you," and it's NEVER offended me.
I would think anyone with any degree of common sense would understand as well.

ragtopW · Post by **ragtopW** » September 11, 2004 6:55 pm

Wait a second here!! If only adults are allowed
than SideW, Kev and I aren't allowed are we

HsvParrothead · Post by **HsvParrothead** » September 11, 2004 7:03 pm

ragtopW wrote:Wait a second here!! If only adults are allowed
than SideW, Kev and I aren't allowed are we

Maybe we can just tailgate out in the driveway

RinglingRingling · Post by **RinglingRingling** » September 11, 2004 7:53 pm

HsvParrothead wrote:
RinglingRingling wrote:I prefer direct..

If we wanted the little drooling, pooping, jelly-smearing animals at this event, we'd have done the invite in colour crayon and spritzed it with "essence of grape jelly and kool-aid"
I take it RR doesnt have kids

I never get any cards around the 3rd Sunday in June, so I am guessing you would be correct.

buffettbride · Post by **buffettbride** » September 11, 2004 11:12 pm

This is my take. I think it is important to be direct about not wanting kids at your function. HOWEVER, if this is your rule, make sure that you apply it all the way across the board. There is nothing more offensive as a parent than attending a non-kid function (which, I truly don't mind because I'm always looking for a reason to spend time with more grown-ups) and going thru the trouble of finding a sitter and showing up at the party and seeing other parents that came with their kids anyway because they couldn't/wouldn't find a sitter.

My only exception to this is if you invite a female guest who is still nursing her baby. I think it is perfectly appropriate in that case to make an exception for that person and allow them to bring their child. But only the one that is still nursing. If there are other children in the family, then they should not come.

jollymon345 · Post by **jollymon345** » September 12, 2004 6:25 am

I would be direct and say "Adults only no children". If you are having people RSVP, I would just mention it again when they call to RSVP and explain to them why no children. If they don't understand then they don't need to come.

tommcat327 · Post by **tommcat327** » September 12, 2004 6:57 pm

how 'bout "we dont want anything at our house ruined by your children so please leave them home"

or if you're like me,all my friends know i am not comfortable anywhere near kids so they just dont ever bother to bring them to my house.

if i want stuff broken i can certainly do it myself

HsvParrothead · Post by **HsvParrothead** » September 12, 2004 7:09 pm

RinglingRingling wrote:I never get any cards around the 3rd Sunday in June, so I am guessing you would be correct.

until you get a call from an executive producer at the Montel Williams show wanting to reunite you with a "long lost love" who has a "secret" to share

Coconuts · Post by **Coconuts** » September 12, 2004 7:27 pm

tommcat327 wrote:how 'bout "we dont want anything at our house ruined by your children so please leave them home"
or if you're like me,all my friends know i am not comfortable anywhere near kids so they just dont ever bother to bring them to my house. if i want stuff broken i can certainly do it myself

I think if other people in the neighborhood have had child-free parties, then no one will be offended if you just say "No children please."

But my SIL has been trying to get my folks to get a dog- Dad finally shut her up when he told her "If I want pi$$ on my carpet, I'll do it myself."

Sidew13 · Post by **Sidew13** » September 12, 2004 7:30 pm

HsvParrothead wrote:
ragtopW wrote:Wait a second here!! If only adults are allowed
than SideW, Kev and I aren't allowed are we
Maybe we can just tailgate out in the driveway

I'll bring some kool-aid

Sidew13 · Post by **Sidew13** » September 12, 2004 7:32 pm

RinglingRingling wrote:I prefer direct..

If we wanted the little drooling, pooping, jelly-smearing animals at this event, we'd have done the invite in colour crayon and spritzed it with "essence of grape jelly and kool-aid"

you just described me

rednekkPH · Post by **rednekkPH** » September 13, 2004 1:18 pm

How about "Children welcome - babysitting services provided by NAMBLA"?

AlbatrossFlyer · Post by **AlbatrossFlyer** » September 13, 2004 1:23 pm

be direct.... otherwise someone is bound not get the message. and be prepared for somebody to show up with their kids anyway....

buffettbride · Post by **buffettbride** » September 13, 2004 1:30 pm

AlbatrossFlyer wrote:be direct.... otherwise someone is bound not get the message. and be prepared for somebody to show up with their kids anyway....

That happened at the wedding hubby and I just went to.