lovin_jimmy wrote:im in tx. he's in ok., he hasnt seen hayley in 5 years!, when i do get any $$ it is only b/c they take it out of his check. we want my hubby to adopt too, but like you said.... he'd say no just because he is a punk a$$
What a coincidence? I happen to be in OK too.
If I can be of any help, let me know.
"Nonsense! I have not yet begun to defile myself." - Doc Holliday
lovin_jimmy wrote:im in tx. he's in ok., he hasnt seen hayley in 5 years!, when i do get any $$ it is only b/c they take it out of his check. we want my hubby to adopt too, but like you said.... he'd say no just because he is a punk a$$
A sad thing that I have observed is that the deadbeat parent can/will be out of the child's life until the child becomes an adult. Then, after having contributed little or nothing throughout the child's growing years, they want to come back into the child's life once they don't have to provide child-support payments or emotional involvement.
Yet the child wants so badly to be accepted by that formerly absent parent, that none of the past matters. And the deadbeat parent counts on that innate need of the child to be loved by the parent. It's very sad.
Well, I'm quite the little ray of sunshine tonight, aren't I?
Deadbeat parents s**k.
"It's a bit like being unpleasantly drunk."
"What's unpleasant about being drunk?"
"You go and ask a glass of water that." (Douglas Adams)
lovin_jimmy wrote:hmmm, how far are you from okc? how are your detective skills? do you eat your wheaties?
I'm sure E has eaten a Wheatie or 2 in his day
One thing about relinquishment, if it's the same in TX is that all you have to do is show "diligent effort" to locate him and get his relinquishment permission. We also had to run a legal notice in the paper of the time/date/place of the adoption hearing. If he's a no-show it's likely to go in your favor.
What will be very important is how often you have received $$ from him. You can also probably do most of this without a lawyer. We did. And a lot of employers will reimburse you the costs of the adoption, as my employee is doing.
smith co. today they said when/if he shows, we will discuss our case (strictly c.s.) if we can reach an agreement we will do the necessary paperwork blah blah, if not we would actually have to go before the judge. im wondering if i can get him to give up his rights if i drop the c.s. case
Thanks Pop for introducing me to the music, you will always be my favorite Jimmy!!
smith co. today they said when/if he shows, we will discuss our case (strictly c.s.) if we can reach an agreement we will do the necessary paperwork blah blah, if not we would actually have to go before the judge. im wondering if i can get him to give up his rights if i drop the c.s. case
you might!
What's important is to choose what you feel is best for you and Hayley. If it's best to try and collect the $$ and give best effort to create a relationship between father and daugther OR it could be dropping it altogether. You know best what's best for you! I just happen to think step-parent adoption ROCKS! Obviously
smith co. today they said when/if he shows, we will discuss our case (strictly c.s.) if we can reach an agreement we will do the necessary paperwork blah blah, if not we would actually have to go before the judge. im wondering if i can get him to give up his rights if i drop the c.s. case
you might!
What's important is to choose what you feel is best for you and Hayley. If it's best to try and collect the $$ and give best effort to create a relationship between father and daugther OR it could be dropping it altogether. You know best what's best for you! I just happen to think step-parent adoption ROCKS! Obviously
$%^& the money, i just want him outta our lives (oh oh oh they just said jimmy is going to be on conan o'brian friday, ok back to the sub..)the reason i turned him in is so it will be on record that he is a loser. he is a stranger to her, she knows she has "another dad", but calls danny "daddy". he is an alcoholic, addict, loser and can contribute nothing positive to my daughters life.
Thanks Pop for introducing me to the music, you will always be my favorite Jimmy!!
smith co. today they said when/if he shows, we will discuss our case (strictly c.s.) if we can reach an agreement we will do the necessary paperwork blah blah, if not we would actually have to go before the judge. im wondering if i can get him to give up his rights if i drop the c.s. case
you might!
What's important is to choose what you feel is best for you and Hayley. If it's best to try and collect the $$ and give best effort to create a relationship between father and daugther OR it could be dropping it altogether. You know best what's best for you! I just happen to think step-parent adoption ROCKS! Obviously
Then go for it Toni! You can do it!
And Jimmy is on Conan TONIGHT! Not tomorrow!!! Stay tuned!
$%^& the money, i just want him outta our lives (oh oh oh they just said jimmy is going to be on conan o'brian friday, ok back to the sub..)the reason i turned him in is so it will be on record that he is a loser. he is a stranger to her, she knows she has "another dad", but calls danny "daddy". he is an alcoholic, addict, loser and can contribute nothing positive to my daughters life.
smith co. today they said when/if he shows, we will discuss our case (strictly c.s.) if we can reach an agreement we will do the necessary paperwork blah blah, if not we would actually have to go before the judge. im wondering if i can get him to give up his rights if i drop the c.s. case
you might!
What's important is to choose what you feel is best for you and Hayley. If it's best to try and collect the $$ and give best effort to create a relationship between father and daugther OR it could be dropping it altogether. You know best what's best for you! I just happen to think step-parent adoption ROCKS! Obviously
$%^& the money, i just want him outta our lives (oh oh oh they just said jimmy is going to be on conan o'brian friday, ok back to the sub..)the reason i turned him in is so it will be on record that he is a loser. he is a stranger to her, she knows she has "another dad", but calls danny "daddy". he is an alcoholic, addict, loser and can contribute nothing positive to my daughters life.
Then go for it Toni! You can do it!
And Jimmy is on Conan TONIGHT! Not tomorrow!!! Stay tuned!
I wish you the best of luck. My ex owes me $18,600.00. Her excuse is that it's too much work to send me the money from Australia where she now lives. If she ever comes back to the States then we shall see what happens.
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This thread is really disturbing. Looks like I got the good end of the stick, the judge ordered her to NOT pay child support, but at least I don't have to deal with her !
Yes, I am religious, my preacher sings the praises of Vampires, Mummies & the Holy Ghost!
The Lost Manatee wrote:I wish you the best of luck. My ex owes me $18,600.00. Her excuse is that it's too much work to send me the money from Australia where she now lives. If she ever comes back to the States then we shall see what happens.
We have a reciprocating jurisdiction (big words for me I know!) with the USA - should be able to get it enforced here.
My Mom married my Father. She got pregnant. His reaction to the news "You wouldn't have gotten pregnant if this wasn't the SON God intended me to have". Well, I was born, no stem of the apple and his reaction "Oh great, another girl. That's just what I need". My Mother ( even as brash as she tends to be) loved me from the moment of conception and does today. When he walked out Thanksgiving week of 1973, I didn't notice. He wasn't there for me in the first place. I was daughter number 6. The divorce read he will pay $20 a week in child support. Yes, $20 A WEEK! (It WAS 1973) He paid for about 8 months. I heard from him the Christmas I was 7. That's it. He's the lowest man on the planet. He didn't want me because I was a girl. She tried to collect the CS due. He fled to one of the 2 states they can't prosicute. (They are WVA and CT) It's hard so handle it alone. I saw some hard times but I never ever felt like I wasn't wanted. My Mom was (and still is) 100% about loving me.
Then the tables turned...
I grew up and got married. I had Jim in 1990. He is great and we love him dearly but we knew we would have boys. For over 100 years in hubby's family, no girls (except a "alternative" sis. We love her but she's lacking some estrogen) Then, after nephews and brothers as far as the eye could see, (and LOTS of praying and infertility treatment) We got our Mollie. She is a princess and they whole family was THRILLED with a baby girl. She has more gifts of pink and lace stuff than you can imagine. Talk about tables turning. To my father, I was just another girl. To my daughter's Daddy, she's incredible! It does my heart good to know that what made my father turn his back is the exact same thing that completed our family.
I guess what I'm getting at is Hayley will know what kind of man her father is. No one will have to tell her. She will make her own judgements. Raise her to be confident and the rest will fall into place. Good luck and keep us posted! BTW...GO HUG DANNY!!!! What a great man!
"Mommy, when is Jimmy Buffett coming to OUR house? We go see him ALL THE TIME??" (Actual quote from my 5 y/o keet)
getting ready to go to court tomorrow to try to get some of the $10,062.16 that the a$$hole owes me.
he is going to get served from both of us at the same time!! HA! take that you punk a$$ mother !@#$%^
$%^& the money, i just want him outta our lives the reason i turned him in is so it will be on record that he is a loser.
I do hope you get what you need, and what is important for the child is the only thing that really matters here. Be careful your motives aren't strictly based on some revenge seeking drive. It seems from some of the contradictive things you said that this whole thing is strictly anger based.
I say this only from my own experience. My ex has custody of our 10 year old. Late last year, we met in court. She wanted to legally change our sons name to her 4th husbands name (I was husband number 2) Each one of her 3 kids has a different last name, and she obviously is getting tired of explaining it to everyone in town.
I objected of course, and obtained every record of her request to the judge.
Seems she was so driven by some sick revenge thing she told the judge that I never pay child support. I showed up on the court date, to her dismay, with a copy of a complete payment history for 10 1/2 years. After the judge slapped her with perjury, he made a point to put in the decision that this was revenge based.
"In taking revenge, a man is but even with his enemy, but in passing it over, he is superior.
