i can see where i contradicted myself... when i started this thread it was not my intention to tell my life story, i was just venting to friends. with all due respect to you and your situation, you do not know me. hell yes i am angry. i am angry that he abandoned his child. i am angry that he has another child in the same situation. i am angry i had to answer the questions" where is my daddy, why doesnt he call me", from my 3 y/o. i am angry that he got a wild hair, showed up one night out of the blue to see her for an hour, promise he was going to come get her for a visit, just to dissapear from her life again.(thank God she doesnt remember that) i am angry that she called my dad "daddy" because she was confused.chalksoperations wrote:getting ready to go to court tomorrow to try to get some of the $10,062.16 that the a$$hole owes me.
he is going to get served from both of us at the same time!! HA! take that you punk a$$ mother !@#$%^
$%^& the money, i just want him outta our lives the reason i turned him in is so it will be on record that he is a loser.
I do hope you get what you need, and what is important for the child is the only thing that really matters here. Be careful your motives aren't strictly based on some revenge seeking drive. It seems from some of the contradictive things you said that this whole thing is strictly anger based.
I say this only from my own experience. My ex has custody of our 10 year old. Late last year, we met in court. She wanted to legally change our sons name to her 4th husbands name (I was husband number 2) Each one of her 3 kids has a different last name, and she obviously is getting tired of explaining it to everyone in town.
I objected of course, and obtained every record of her request to the judge.
Seems she was so driven by some sick revenge thing she told the judge that I never pay child support. I showed up on the court date, to her dismay, with a copy of a complete payment history for 10 1/2 years. After the judge slapped her with perjury, he made a point to put in the decision that this was revenge based.
"In taking revenge, a man is but even with his enemy, but in passing it over, he is superior.
-Sir Francis Bacon
1561-1626
Again good luck, but keep your head.
am i angry HELL YES, just like , im sure it makes you angry that deadbeat dads like my ex, give men a bad name. i commend you for standing up and doing the right thing. not all men are as good as you. on the same note, not all women are vengeful like you ex wife. i do not have 3 kids from three different men, if i did, it would be my business.
i am remarried. i have been blessed w/a wonderful husband and 2 boys in addition to my daughter. my husband is raising my daughter as his own, he loves her, she loves him, we would like to make it official....end of story.
MAKE NO MISTAKE...... i would give up the money in a heartbeat if it meant i did not have to worry about him suddenly resurfacing in our lives. i wouldnt have to worry about my daughter being forced to spend time w/ a stranger in another state. yes she knows about him, could she pick him out of a line-up? no. could he pick her out of a line-up? doubtful.
if i wanted to get revenge, i would have done it when he left me at a gas station in the middle of the night.
if i wanted to get revenge, i would have done it when he shoved me up against the wall INFRONT OF MY DAUGHTER, and broke her window
if i wanted to get revenge, i would have done it when he was spending all of our money on beer and drugs, instead of diapers and food
if i wanted to get revenge i would have done it when he busted my windsheild while my daughter and i were trying to leave
MOST IMPORTANTLY, IF I WANTED TO GET REVENGE I WOULD NOT USE MY DAUGHTER TO DO IT.
dont throw quotes my way about revenge. i know all about letting things go.i let all of the crap from the past stay in the past when we got divorced. it was my hopes that we could move on and start over. i hoped he would see my daughter on a regular basis and be a positive influence in her life. it became obvious that would not happen. he is a drug addict and an alcoholic. he is very unstable and a person who does not need to be around children. im not bashing him here, im just telling the truth. i always said if he is not going to be a constant in her life, then he needs to stay away. i dont want her to be one of those dissapointed kids sitting on the doorstep waiting for their dad to come get them. the last time we saw him was 5 years ago for an hour. we have moved on. my daughter is a well adjusted, happy girl. we just want to close that chapter and live happily ever after
