Should I stay or should I go?

Demerara · Post by **Demerara** » March 30, 2005 6:40 pm

My wife and I have tickets to Pittsburgh on June 26. It's also her birthday. We have hotel reservations for two nights (we live about 4 hours' drive away) and the plan is to make a weekend of it.

However -- my youngest daughter (she's 9) is upset that she won't get to see Mommy on her birthday - even though we plan to celebrate it on the Monday when we come home. Taking her along isn't really an option at this point. We also have tickets to Toronto.

My question is: Should we go to the concert, or should we sell the tickets and stay home?

Zanzibar · Post by **Zanzibar** » March 30, 2005 6:54 pm

I'd go to the concert because I'll be there

But in all seriousness I would go and call your daughter when you get there and have a big party on monday when you come back

finsup2k · Post by **finsup2k** » March 30, 2005 7:09 pm

Demerara wrote:My wife and I have tickets to Pittsburgh on June 26. It's also her birthday. We have hotel reservations for two nights (we live about 4 hours' drive away) and the plan is to make a weekend of it.

However -- my youngest daughter (she's 9) is upset that she won't get to see Mommy on her birthday - even though we plan to celebrate it on the Monday when we come home. Taking her along isn't really an option at this point. We also have tickets to Toronto.

My question is: Should we go to the concert, or should we sell the tickets and stay home?

If your wife WANTS to go to the show, then take her. If she'd rather stay home, take your daughter.

Post by **SMLCHNG** » March 30, 2005 9:18 pm

Zanzibar wrote:But in all seriousness I would go and call your daughter when you get there and have a big party on monday when you come back

Agreed.

Parents still need time to enjoy their lives and time together, and kids have to learn to deal with disappointment sometimes.

jaytrader · Post by **jaytrader** » March 30, 2005 10:53 pm

I say you should go. It is your wife's birthday afterall. But I think I can understand your apprehension, do you think your daughter could handle this? Giving in to her may not be any healthier for her if you stay (always giving in to their wishes, yada yada yada). I would go with your's and your wife's gut instinct as far as whether you should stay or go - do you think you can go and have a good time and not feel like bad parrents? You should.

I'll be leaving my 18 mos. old to travel 4 hours to stay 2 nights in Pittsburgh for our anniversary which is on the 26th - and I can not wait!

Wino you know · Post by **Wino you know** » March 30, 2005 10:57 pm

SMLCHNG wrote:
Zanzibar wrote:But in all seriousness I would go and call your daughter when you get there and have a big party on monday when you come back
Agreed. Parents still need time to enjoy their lives and time together, and kids have to learn to deal with disappointment sometimes.

DEFINATELY wPs.

lovin_jimmy · Post by **lovin_jimmy** » March 31, 2005 12:09 am

she is old enough to understand, GO GO GO

ragtopW · Post by **ragtopW** » March 31, 2005 12:19 am

lovin_jimmy wrote:she is old enough to understand, GO GO GO

WL_JS Unless your wife would rather stay It is her birthday..

aparrotheadindenver · Post by **aparrotheadindenver** » March 31, 2005 12:45 am

SMLCHNG wrote:Agreed. Parents still need time to enjoy their lives and time together, and kids have to learn to deal with disappointment sometimes.

Very well said.

GO!!!!

LonePalm1 · Post by **LonePalm1** » March 31, 2005 1:00 am

I'm going to have to go with the group on this one...

Are you out of your mind?!?!? GO!!

DonnaKayDunbar · Post by **DonnaKayDunbar** » March 31, 2005 1:39 am

You can always donate your tickets to the DKD foundation if you have to stay home...

Sidew13 · Post by **Sidew13** » March 31, 2005 5:06 am

Another reason I don't want kids

buffettbride · Post by **buffettbride** » March 31, 2005 9:39 am

I agree with the other posters with the caveat to make special plans *before* you go to the concert to have a family b-day celebration w/ daughter included. I think 9 is definitely old enough to understand. I'd probably do the same with my 7 year old (who would likely have the same reaction of wanting Mommy home on my b-day).

buffettbride · Post by **buffettbride** » March 31, 2005 9:40 am

Sidew13 wrote:Another reason I don't want kids

They probably don't want you either, Joe.

nycparrothead · Post by **nycparrothead** » March 31, 2005 9:42 am

buffettbride wrote:
Sidew13 wrote:Another reason I don't want kids
They probably don't want you either, Joe.

SchoolGirlHeart · Post by **SchoolGirlHeart** » March 31, 2005 9:47 am

GO!!!!

Kids need to understand that they're not the center of the universe, and 9 is old enough to start.....

Heck, I left my then-8 year old for 10 months when Uncle Sam came calling, and lo-and-behold he survived.

I think if you can have a party before you leave, it'd take the sting out for your daughter. Heck, you could make it fun that she's so special she got to celebrate Mom's birthday before anyone else!

nutmeg · Post by **nutmeg** » March 31, 2005 9:54 am

I say go. Like the others here, I think there is a point where kids need to learn that their parents have a life and are entitled to have some fun on their own. Having a pre or post party should make her feel like she hasn't been completely left out.

OPHarbor · Post by **OPHarbor** » March 31, 2005 10:54 am

GO!!!!

gris gris · Post by **gris gris** » March 31, 2005 10:59 am

this is why marriage counseling saved us. she reminded us that we run the house, not vice versa! Go and have a great time.

Demerara · Post by **Demerara** » March 31, 2005 11:14 am

Some great advice from everyone - thanks!

But why are the 8 people (as of this writing) who said "stay home" so silent?

BuffettNews.com