buffettbride wrote:I'm sure my hubby feels the same way at times. He also knows I didn't have a lot of friends before I got to know some BNrs and he's happy that I have an outlet to be social. Do I spend to much time here?? Well, uhh, yeah probably. Look at my post count and I joined less than a year ago!
DESPERATE_HOUSEWIFE wrote:Sadly, this is NOT an April Fools joke. That's funny though. I wonder how many people thought, oh, &$%*, I hope that's not my wife! Or how many of you think your spouse might feel the same way sometimes. Anyways, this is kind of fun, maybe I will do it more often. Thanks again for advice and suggestions.
3rd post and already addicted...AMEN sister..
Granted BN shouldn't cut into personal time together..but it's a great group of pholk in here.
DESPERATE_HOUSEWIFE wrote:Sadly, this is NOT an April Fools joke. That's funny though. I wonder how many people thought, oh, &$%*, I hope that's not my wife! Or how many of you think your spouse might feel the same way sometimes. Anyways, this is kind of fun, maybe I will do it more often. Thanks again for advice and suggestions.
3rd post and already addicted...AMEN sister..
Granted BN shouldn't cut into personal time together..but it's a great group of pholk in here.
I can only offer this idea: positive reinforcement for time spent with you. Make it more positive than what he finds here?
well, it's not my wife....
my advice, get a divorce, especially if you've repeatedly talked to him about it and have even tried counseling to no avail.
There's gotta be some deeper issues here.
"It's crazy and it's different, but it's really bein' free"
My hubby and I used to have a similar problem--he's very much into the computer, especially playing games. For a while there, it seemed like he wanted to play games more than he wanted to spend time with me. But I told him how it made me feel, and now it's not a problem any more. He would reserve his game time for after I had gone to bed (he's a night owl) or when I was doing something on my own, etc. But he really made an effort to get away from the computer and spend more time with me, and now it is not even an issue with us. I also made an effort to give him a certain amount of time to himself so he could do what he wanted to. But there has to be a balance.
(Of course, now we have a three-week old baby, so he doesn't have the time or energy to do much else. I'm amazed that I even have time to make this post right now!)
Clint Black said it best (and JB covered it in 2000) It won't be long before my ship comes in
She'll find me waiting when my ship comes in
When my ship comes in
Gulfbreeze wrote:it's a great group of pholk in here.
Yes, it is.
Marriage isn't easy. In MOST cases, it's not one person or the other to make it work, or make it fail.
Yes, I would say he should find a little more time to spend with you. But, on the other hand, you should try to learn about the things that makes him happy. You can both share it together.
BN is more than just a website, IMHO. It's full of good people and the most amazing place to meet new friends - some of the best friends I have ever had. And, in my case, to find love.
Apparently since this is serious and not an April Fool's joke
Computers and chats and videogames can become obssesive to anyone.....one need look no further than keets for example.
Nintendo,or Sega or, or any of the new games....time just flies away... They can be as addictive as heroin at times......
Gently let him know that it has become a problem and that the two of you need and the keets need more quality time together. That it is fine what he does online and you love and trust him .......but you and the keets need a little of him and his time too, and talk about him dividing his time up and actually getting outside or going to the zoo or museum or a picnic or getting a sitter for the keets and going out to a decent dinner or dancing or something.......maybe just for the heck of it or maybe because it is a friend of a friend of a friend of a second cousin twice removed or whatever birthday and you and him just go out and have some quality time together ( no one needs to have a party, it is just a reason to go out and be together...or because it is BLAH BLAH Seldom heard of Day) maybe go out and play putt-putt or something..... maybe just stay home and order pizza or chinese or one of those meals that you can order from a deli or wherever... play chess or some cards or board games and/or some nice music..... anything that puts the two of you together away from the puter for awhile and brings back the memory of why the two of you are together and have been together all these years and why the two of you had keets and are raising them together.
Family first!!!
I have no idea if this is of any help or not or even IF it maybe food for thought and can be modified to be of use..........I wish you all of the best.....
By all means let us know .....
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I recently had a similar issue with a guy I am dating. We have been dating almost a year and he is always online chatting and IMing(he is not on this site, he is not a buffett phan). We had a discussion that if we want our relationship to go anywhere he needs to cut back online, i thought he would rather be online than with me. Well it has been a few weeks and he has done so (cut back), things have been much better. Unfortunately I am not married though.
I agree with the others to try and talk to your husband, and schedule activities that include him. Try to get him to realizes he has to want to cut back to save the relationship with you and the kids.
Best of luck and lots of phin power to you.
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DESPERATE_HOUSEWIFE wrote:My husband spends A LOT more time on Buffett News (and other web sites) than he does with me or with our children, (but especially with me). I've tried talking to him about this but fail miserably. He actually listens to what people on this site have to say more than he seems to listen to me. So, PLEASE if you have any useful advice that could help save our marriage and family from falling apart, let us know. I am open to suggestions as well. I hope he sees this and will actually get it, that I am fed up! It's not like I don't have my own life, I do. But, shouldn't married people TALK and spend some time together as a couple? I don't know what else to do. We have tried counseling in the past, but obviously it didn't help. I am sad, lonely and I feel like we are not even friends most of the time.
MOM????
Just kidding! I'm so sorry, I hope your hubby wakes up!!! I wish you luck!!
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