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My husband spends A LOT more time on Buffett News (and other web sites) than he does with me or with our children, (but especially with me). I've tried talking to him about this but fail miserably. He actually listens to what people on this site have to say more than he seems to listen to me. So, PLEASE if you have any useful advice that could help save our marriage and family from falling apart, let us know. I am open to suggestions as well. I hope he sees this and will actually get it, that I am fed up! It's not like I don't have my own life, I do. But, shouldn't married people TALK and spend some time together as a couple? I don't know what else to do. We have tried counseling in the past, but obviously it didn't help. I am sad, lonely and I feel like we are not even friends most of the time.

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I love listening to and talking about Jimmy Buffett, but at the same time I realize that there are more important things like family and friends too. A past-time is a good thing, but it can also go too far.

Get a second computer. Join the site. Have fun.

Start posting here more often! You don't need a Buffett interest to fit in (although it helps a little) But there are many social and off topic threads here! We have many BN'ers here that are husband/wife!

Do you work outside of the home?

DESPERATE_HOUSEWIFE wrote:So, PLEASE if you have any useful advice that could help save our marriage and family from falling apart, let us know.

Bonk him on the head with a rolling pin or a frying pan!

DESPERATE_HOUSEWIFE wrote:I am sad, lonely and I feel like we are not even friends most of the time.

In all seriousness, that sux... I hope something turns things around for you.

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Am I the only one who thinks this is just an April Fool's prank?

Brown Eyed Girl wrote:Am I the only one who thinks this is just an April Fool's prank?

Whoever it is...uses excellent grammar and punctuation.

Yes, I work fulltime, and I am also about to complete my masters degree. I guess I am not actually a "desperate housewife" (that was kind of a joke). I do stay very busy myself. It's not like I need constant attention, but I would like a healthy relationship with my husband. Thanks for all the post so far, that was REALLY fast! I agree that I could post more myself. I do like Buffett. I have fun going to the concerts. I am just not as obsessed as my husband. It would be nice if we could both give a little, ya know?

Do you have interests that you are more into that he can handle?

I think if Buffett's gonna be an obsession it should be a healthy obsession. Although I always refer to myself as a parrothead and love buffettnews I think we all realize that there are other things out there. So for one hour a day lets all do something non-Buffett related. For our friends, our families, and our sanity.

Then we can all come on buffettnews and discuss how it went.

Sadly, this is NOT an April Fools joke. That's funny though. I wonder how many people thought, oh, &$%*, I hope that's not my wife! Or how many of you think your spouse might feel the same way sometimes. Anyways, this is kind of fun, maybe I will do it more often. Thanks again for advice and suggestions.

DESPERATE_HOUSEWIFE wrote:Sadly, this is NOT an April Fools joke. That's funny though. I wonder how many people thought, oh, &$%*, I hope that's not my wife! Or how many of you think your spouse might feel the same way sometimes. Anyways, this is kind of fun, maybe I will do it more often. Thanks again for advice and suggestions.

well at least you both will have he same addiction

DESPERATE_HOUSEWIFE wrote:Or how many of you think your spouse might feel the same way sometimes.

guilty

Although, in my case, it's not the online time that bothers him so much, but more the many concerts and outings I go to with BuffettNewsers! He seems to be getting used to it though!

I'm sure my hubby feels the same way at times. He also knows I didn't have a lot of friends before I got to know some BNrs and he's happy that I have an outlet to be social. Do I spend to much time here?? Well, uhh, yeah probably. Look at my post count and I joined less than a year ago!

boy, I wish there was an easy answer out there for your problem, but from what you say, his time on buffettnews is a symptom and not the bigger probem.

it may be that he needs to get some perspective on all this, and you need to find some obsessions that give you pleasure as well (and nice going on the masters degree), and then you two need to come together and enjoy each other's interests.

Have you tried something as simple as date nights?

I'm not sure that I how much my advice is worth given how my marriage ended. In my case the roles were reversed.

I would suggest making a point of getting him offline and away from all other distractions and then sit down and tell him how you feel because of his inattention. Try to remember the rules for not making a confrontation, don't make it an attack upon him or his interests, approach it as how you feel, not how he makes you feel.

Another idea is to try to arrange an evening each week where there is a family activity which will involve him to such a degree that he can't get out of it.

Try getting him to go for walks with you where you can talk and reconnect. It's good exercise, as well as a means to get him away from the computer.

While it is true that couples may grow apart it doesn't mean that you can't find new interests to share.

I sincerely wish you the best in resolving this.

Much like Mal (BuffettBride), my spouse is a member here who posts rarely. I would've thought you were my wife, but you mentioned kids, which I have none (that I know of).

Hi, Desperate Housewife-
At first I was REALLY scared that it was MY wife posting.
I'm also 1/2 of a "mixed marriage."
Don't get me wrong-my wife likes Jimmy Buffett a lot, just not anywhere near as obsessed as I am. I admit it-it's an obsession with me. I look forward to getting out of bed every day, finishing my errands before I go to work, and getting on the computer as soon as I can so I can "play Jimmy Buffett" every day. She (the wife) enjoys the C.D.s, but, due to her declining health, is no longer able to go to concerts. She's pretty much learned to deal with my obsession-we have two dogs that she enjoys spending time with, and in the evening she's always tuned in to Emerile LaGassa cooking show, reads, etc. Of course, all my co-workers think I'm completely insane, but WHO CARES what THOSE idiots think?
During the day at home, I try to limit my on line time to just a couple hours, and when I'm home in the evenings, I either stay off line, or wait until she goes to bed.

Whatever happens, I hope everything works out for you, and, if nothing else, you're more than welcome to join us here every day and share your day with us, or even your life in general. Whatever you feel like discussing, there's sure to be lots of us here that would enjoy chatting with you.

Have a great weekend.