If yuo have kids...

longlinergirl · Post by **longlinergirl** » April 4, 2005 4:43 pm

This is W A Y off topic but...I have a 2 year old who has outgrown his crib. We are trying to get him to sleep in a regular bed, but it ain't happenin. We have the things up so he can't fall out of bed, but unless I sleep in there with him, as soon as I get up, he follows me out the door. PLEASE, help me...I have alrady thought of duct taping him, but HRS says thats a no no ,so ,and I would only assume that tying him down is also not allowed, but anything other than that would be a big help. Thanks!

SchoolGirlHeart · Post by **SchoolGirlHeart** » April 4, 2005 4:51 pm

We went through this. Explain that he's a big boy, and will now be sleeping alone in his own bed. Don't lie down with him. Leave. Close the door. Lock it if you have to. Or hold it shut. He may scream. Don't give in. Eventually, he WILL fall asleep; perhaps on the floor. It won't hurt him. After he's asleep, put him in his bed. The first couple of nights might be rough, but once he gets the picture that he's not allowed out, he'll eventually stay in his bed. If he shows up in your room in the middle of the night, put him back in his bed.... And so on.....

I'm sure you already do this, but it also helps to have a tucking-in routine, signaling "bed time."

Konga Man · Post by **Konga Man** » April 4, 2005 4:52 pm

Buy him a dog

lorilovv · Post by **lorilovv** » April 4, 2005 4:52 pm

longlinergirl wrote:This is W A Y off topic but...I have a 2 year old who has outgrown his crib. We are trying to get him to sleep in a regular bed, but it ain't happenin. We have the things up so he can't fall out of bed, but unless I sleep in there with him, as soon as I get up, he follows me out the door. PLEASE, help me...I have alrady thought of duct taping him, but HRS says thats a no no ,so ,and I would only assume that tying him down is also not allowed, but anything other than that would be a big help. Thanks!

Does he like movies? My son had a tv/vcr in his room and always fell asleep watching his favorites. Now, we did go through a terrible couple of months playing musical beds. He would wake up during the night... I would lay down by him.... he would get up and get in bed with me...I would put him back to bed after he fell asleep, and so on... I thought I would LOSE IT, but, he eventually started sleeping all night in his room. It's a big adjustment for the little tikes! And of course, there's always benadryl!

buffettbride · Post by **buffettbride** » April 4, 2005 4:55 pm

Hmmm. Let's see here...when my daughter first started sleeping in a big-girl bed, I had to lay down with her until she fell to sleep or she was up and out of bed in a heartbeat. Just crying-it-out never really worked with her. So, eventually what I did, is brought in a chair and sat right next to her bed. The next nite, I moved the chair (or cushion, whatever) a little closer to the door.

Another thing to do is make sure bedtime is ROUTINE ROUTINE ROUTINE. At our house it's go potty, brush teeth, pick book. We read the book, snuggle, and tuck in. Then we cover the bedtime rules (without fail)...

1. Stay in bed
2. Lay quietly
3. No excuses (i'm hungry; i'm thirsty; i'm whateveritis)

A combination of all of the above has worked well for us. Tony isn't quite big enough to move to a bed at 14 mos...so we'll probably give all of that a try. He's always been good at going down to bed, so I can only hope that transitioning to a bed will be as easy!

Cubbie Bear · Post by **Cubbie Bear** » April 4, 2005 4:57 pm

pnuemonia, new bed and new couch all hit about the same time with #2. She couldn't sleep laying down flat, the bed was new and she loved the new couch, which she officially dubbed "the ni-ni couch" took a long time to break her of it. On #3 we were stronger and didn't budge and the hard nights ended quickly

SchoolGirlHeart · Post by **SchoolGirlHeart** » April 4, 2005 4:57 pm

Konga Man wrote:Buy him a dog

or a cat. or better yet, a special stuffed animal.

with one of ours, we threatened to bring back the crib if he didn't stay in his big-boy bed. it worked.

creeky · Post by **creeky** » April 4, 2005 4:58 pm

I dont have kids but I watched SuperNanny USA the other night and she tried a technique for one kid.

Put the child in bed, and then sit on the floor beside it, but dont have any facial contact - sit with your face side on. As the child cries, you ignore it - have lights out etc.

Eventually, you sit a little further away each night and then out the door and eventually child is sleeping on its own.

As I said , no kids, and no idea, but this did seem to work.

lorilovv · Post by **lorilovv** » April 4, 2005 5:02 pm

buffettbride wrote:Hmmm. Let's see here...when my daughter first started sleeping in a big-girl bed, I had to lay down with her until she fell to sleep or she was up and out of bed in a heartbeat. Just crying-it-out never really worked with her. So, eventually what I did, is brought in a chair and sat right next to her bed. The next nite, I moved the chair (or cushion, whatever) a little closer to the door.

Another thing to do is make sure bedtime is ROUTINE ROUTINE ROUTINE. At our house it's go potty, brush teeth, pick book. We read the book, snuggle, and tuck in. Then we cover the bedtime rules (without fail)...

1. Stay in bed
2. Lay quietly
3. No excuses (i'm hungry; i'm thirsty; i'm whateveritis)

A combination of all of the above has worked well for us. Tony isn't quite big enough to move to a bed at 14 mos...so we'll probably give all of that a try. He's always been good at going down to bed, so I can only hope that transitioning to a bed will be as easy!

I completely agree: ROUTINE! as with everything else. Because of routine I have absolutely no problem with mine brushing his teeth, going to bed, getting ready for school, and so on. He just knows the routine and knows that this is how it is! Also, a bedtime stuffed pal works great. Logan often would pretend like he was taking care of "puppy" and making sure that he went to sleep. I always had to kiss "puppy" goodnight and tuck him in just as I did for Logan. Soooo sweet.

balcony girls · Post by **balcony girls** » April 4, 2005 5:04 pm

lorilovv wrote:
buffettbride wrote:Hmmm. Let's see here...when my daughter first started sleeping in a big-girl bed, I had to lay down with her until she fell to sleep or she was up and out of bed in a heartbeat. Just crying-it-out never really worked with her. So, eventually what I did, is brought in a chair and sat right next to her bed. The next nite, I moved the chair (or cushion, whatever) a little closer to the door.

Another thing to do is make sure bedtime is ROUTINE ROUTINE ROUTINE. At our house it's go potty, brush teeth, pick book. We read the book, snuggle, and tuck in. Then we cover the bedtime rules (without fail)...

1. Stay in bed
2. Lay quietly
3. No excuses (i'm hungry; i'm thirsty; i'm whateveritis)

I completely agree: ROUTINE! as with everything else. Because of routine I have absolutely no problem with mine brushing his teeth, going to bed, getting ready for school, and so on. He just knows the routine and knows that this is how it is! Also, a bedtime stuffed pal works great. Logan often would pretend like he was taking care of "puppy" and making sure that he went to sleep. I always had to kiss "puppy" goodnight and tuck him in just as I did for Logan. Soooo sweet.

A combination of all of the above has worked well for us. Tony isn't quite big enough to move to a bed at 14 mos...so we'll probably give all of that a try. He's always been good at going down to bed, so I can only hope that transitioning to a bed will be as easy!

I see what you heard, but I don't see what you said . . .

OceanCityGirl · Post by **OceanCityGirl** » April 4, 2005 5:08 pm

Try blackmail. Get a little reward chart and some stars. When your little one gets 3 stars give a small treat. When you hit a bigger number like 7 a special treat.
You will have a few exhausting nights bringing him back to the bed, reassuring and tucking in again. But eventually if you hold firm he will get used to it. Perhaps you can also let him pick out a special sleepy animal or a night light or somthing like that to put into the room to make it easier.

LIPH · Post by **LIPH** » April 4, 2005 5:09 pm

This is why I agree with W.C. Fields:
Q: Do you like children?
A: Only if they're properly cooked.

longlinergirl · Post by **longlinergirl** » April 4, 2005 5:09 pm

Thanks everyone, I'll have to try some of those. He understands everything we say, so hopefully he'll get the stay in bed thing, but he doesn't talk (nothing more than ma and da) so whatever he may be thinking is generally lost on us. I think I'll try the closing the door thing as I know if I am in the room he would never stay in the bed. I have heard of kids sleeping on the floor for a while till they got used to the staying in bed thing. No one warns you about all this stuff when you have kids...next will be potty training...

buffettbride · Post by **buffettbride** » April 4, 2005 5:10 pm

LIPH wrote:This is why I agree with W.C. Fields:
Q: Do you like children?
A: Only if they're properly cooked.

But I get a lifetime supply of hugs, kisses, and giggles from the 2 cutest, most wonderful kids in the world.....and you don't!!

longlinergirl · Post by **longlinergirl** » April 4, 2005 5:10 pm

LIPH wrote:This is why I agree with W.C. Fields:
Q: Do you like children?
A: Only if they're properly cooked.

I'm starting to agree...he would be tasty with fave beans and a nice Kiante(sp?)

Konga Man · Post by **Konga Man** » April 4, 2005 5:11 pm

What ever you do DO NOT tell him about the bogey man in the closet or the " things that go bump in the night"

( excellent book)

longlinergirl · Post by **longlinergirl** » April 4, 2005 5:11 pm

buffettbride wrote:
LIPH wrote:This is why I agree with W.C. Fields:
Q: Do you like children?
A: Only if they're properly cooked.
But I get a lifetime supply of hugs, kisses, and giggles from the 2 cutest, most wonderful kids in the world.....and you don't!!

Mine gives open mouth kisses, which is rather creepy...

buffettbride · Post by **buffettbride** » April 4, 2005 5:12 pm

longlinergirl wrote:
buffettbride wrote:
LIPH wrote:This is why I agree with W.C. Fields:
Q: Do you like children?
A: Only if they're properly cooked.
But I get a lifetime supply of hugs, kisses, and giggles from the 2 cutest, most wonderful kids in the world.....and you don't!!
Mine gives open mouth kisses, which is rather creepy...

So does my little Tony. It's kinda creepy too. We've started teaching him that the kiss sound is "mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm" (closed) instead of "ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh" (open with tongue).

Too funny!

longlinergirl · Post by **longlinergirl** » April 4, 2005 5:14 pm

Konga Man wrote:What ever you do DO NOT tell him about the bogey man in the closet or the " things that go bump in the night" ( excellent book)

OPPS, maybe thats where I went wrong??

jollymon345 · Post by **jollymon345** » April 4, 2005 5:16 pm

When my daughter was a little over 2 we moved into our new house and the first 2 nights she slept in her crib fine. Then she started climbing out of her crib and would not stay in. We put the side down and put pillows down so when she climb out she wouldn't hurt herself. We finally got her a bed to sleep in and she would not stay in her room and sleep unless we stayed in with her and then all she wanted to do was play. We took a drastic measure that someone suggested. I switched the handle on her door and we locked her in her room and let her cry it out. We did all the other talking to her and stuff and it never worked. The first 2 nights she fell asleep right by the door. The next couple nights she fell asleep on the floor near the bed. Then she eventually fell asleep on the bed after crying for sometimes up to an hour. After about 2-3 weeks she was fine. She would play in her room and listen to Jimmy and eventually crawl back up in bed and go to sleep. It was rough for the first couple weeks but it's all good now.

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