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Is it ever okay to get someone in your family a job where you work??? I made the mistake of getting my cousin's girlfriend a job because she had been fired months ago and was desperate for work. Now I understand why she got fired and have to work with her everyday. I made a huge mistake and have to live with it from 8-5 Monday through Friday. Plus, to make matters worse she is under me on the ladder and I don't feel like I can say anything about her behavior for fear she will make me look bad to our family. I have found out in the short time we've worked together she is the type to make others look bad for her gain. The other problem is her and our manager (it is just me, her and the manager in our office) are really good friends because their lives mirror each other. Both are single with kids and hang out outside the office. I can't relate being newly married without kids. I don't know what to do. I can't find a new job or I would. I am only here in this office until February and I'm relocating to a coastal office with a great opportunity. I know I am stuck dealing with this and that is what is bothering me the most. I can't fix it. Self inflicted pain is the worst kind.

((Amanda))

That sucks. At least it will be February soon.

I know. I'm counting the days.

You know, my uncle had a company, and both his daughters and my father worked for the company for a while. It was a good situation, but there were too many opportunities for things to go wrong. It's just not smart. Networking is one thing, but bringing it within the family doesn't often work.


NOTM Dec 2005

mings wrote:You know, my uncle had a company, and both his daughters and my father worked for the company for a while. It was a good situation, but there were too many opportunities for things to go wrong. It's just not smart. Networking is one thing, but bringing it within the family doesn't often work.


NOTM Dec 2005

I wish I would have gotten your good advice before this big screw-up.

Any chance of a tragic paper shredder accident?

rednekkPH wrote:Any chance of a tragic paper shredder accident?

Maybe you can arrange for her to get locked in the office all weekend, and therell be a really bad bug infestation and....

Oh sorry. I'm watching the SciFi channel right now.


NOTM Dec 2005

mings wrote:

rednekkPH wrote:Any chance of a tragic paper shredder accident?

Maybe you can arrange for her to get locked in the office all weekend, and therell be a really bad bug infestation and....

Oh sorry. I'm watching the SciFi channel right now.


NOTM Dec 2005

Honestly, I would love to make her look bad in front of our manager and my family. I just don't know how without everyone knowing it was me. I think she knows deep down I have it in for her.

fairhopeparrot wrote:

mings wrote:

rednekkPH wrote:Any chance of a tragic paper shredder accident?

Maybe you can arrange for her to get locked in the office all weekend, and therell be a really bad bug infestation and....

Oh sorry. I'm watching the SciFi channel right now.


NOTM Dec 2005

Honestly, I would love to make her look bad in front of our manager and my family. I just don't know how without everyone knowing it was me. I think she knows deep down I have it in for her.

Tell her about the new company policy - Topless Tuesdays.

fairhopeparrot wrote:Is it ever okay to get someone in your family a job where you work??? .

I think you answered your own question. It is usually not a good idea... glad you are on the home stretch to moving offices!

I'd grin and bear it for now, since you do have a way out and light at the end of your tunnel in Feb. Chances are good that she will eventually hang herself (as she must have done in her last job). If you're asked your opinion/perspective, tell the truth and have good concrete examples to back yourself up so you don't look as though you're just whining about her.

Sorry about your situation...not fun....

Quiet and Shy wrote:I'd grin and bear it for now, since you do have a way out and light at the end of your tunnel in Feb. Chances are good that she will eventually hang herself (as she must have done in her last job). If you're asked your opinion/perspective, tell the truth and have good concrete examples to back yourself up so you don't look as though you're just whining about her.

Sorry about your situation...not fun....

Great point. I should take good notes, so I'm ready if the question ever comes up.

If you're outta there in like six weeks what's the big deal?

My sister now works where I work ...

We have a couple of "understood rules" .... to make it work ....

I am management, she is not - so she never asks me for information she knows I cannot give her.

We work on separate floors - and probably physically see each other only once a week.

I never ask her boss how she is going ....

We went to our work christmas party last night - she sat with her people ..and me with mine - worked out well

creeky wrote:My sister now works where I work ...

We have a couple of "understood rules" .... to make it work ....

I am management, she is not - so she never asks me for information she knows I cannot give her.

We work on separate floors - and probably physically see each other only once a week.

I never ask her boss how she is going ....

We went to our work christmas party last night - she sat with her people ..and me with mine - worked out well

so you hate your sister???

Who worked there first and did the other get the other a job there?

NOTM Dec 2005

as a manager I would never hire a relatives anything and maybe not a friend of an employee

mings wrote:

creeky wrote:My sister now works where I work ...

We have a couple of "understood rules" .... to make it work ....

I am management, she is not - so she never asks me for information she knows I cannot give her.

We work on separate floors - and probably physically see each other only once a week.

I never ask her boss how she is going ....

We went to our work christmas party last night - she sat with her people ..and me with mine - worked out well

so you hate your sister???

Who worked there first and did the other get the other a job there?

NOTM Dec 2005

I got there first - she applied and got her job on her own accord.

Dont hate her - it was a competition last night at the Christmas party for who got embarrassed by the others behaviour first - I won - she was embarressed by me dancing a waltz with another girl to Margaritaville before dinner

fairhopeparrot wrote:

mings wrote:

rednekkPH wrote:Any chance of a tragic paper shredder accident?

Maybe you can arrange for her to get locked in the office all weekend, and therell be a really bad bug infestation and....

Oh sorry. I'm watching the SciFi channel right now.


NOTM Dec 2005

Honestly, I would love to make her look bad in front of our manager and my family. I just don't know how without everyone knowing it was me. I think she knows deep down I have it in for her.

don't go out of your way to help her out, let her "shine" on her own. And if she talks you down to the other members of the family, remember: girlfriends come and go; family stays. She'll hose up soon enough, and anything she has to say will be discounted as the ramblings of a bitter, vindictive, scheming, conniving, manipulative skag.

My aunt got my brother his job at the county and my brother got me my job. Me and my brother having been working together there for ten years now and it's a blast.
On top of that, one of the new hires there has recently moved in with my brother and in the past he has been in a relationship with one woman at our workplace and had a one night stand with another.
Before getting to the county I worked with my uncle's painting company for a while and another uncle's masonry company.
We may have had an argument or two through the years but for the most part is was a good time.

12vmanRick wrote:as a manager I would never hire a relatives anything and maybe not a friend of an employee

I wouldn't be that absolute as you could be blinded from good talent that way (e.g. Peter and Jim Mayer seem to do alright working for Jimmy), but someone needs to be qualified for and have good references beyond family and friends that support them getting the job. Of course, it all depends on the type and size of organization, responsibilities, levels, etc. Definately something to be very mindful of, though.