Valentines Day Not Just for Love

sy · Post by sy » February 13, 2006 11:50 am

Just thought this was amusing with all the other discussion going on right now:

Valentine's Day boon for spies tracking infidelity

WASHINGTON (AFP) - For many, Valentine's Day conjures up images of love, romance, flowers and chocolate.

But for detective agencies across the United States, the romantic holiday is a boon for business as it is the ideal time for a spouse to catch a cheating mate.

"Valentine's Day is the biggest day of the year for private investigators," Tony Delorenzo, of Private Detectives of America, a New Jersey-based company, told AFP.

"This year we're doing surveillance Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday because if somebody has a lover it will be on one of those days to catch him."

Delorenzo and several other sleuths contacted said that in the run-up to the February 14 holiday, they had been overwhelmed with appeals by men and women seeking to find out whether their partner was unfaithful.

"Let me put it to you this way," Paul Dank, co-owner of Advanced Surveillance Group, a detective agency based in Michigan and with offices in 14 other states, told AFP.

"We're having a real, real difficult time finding anybody else that can assist us with surveillance right now and we are referring cases to other companies."

He said Valentine's Day was an opportune time to catch a cheating partner as it was the one day lovers would battle all odds to be with each other.

"People involved in a relationship tend to make a big ceremonial meeting on or near Valentine's Day to celebrate it," Dank said. "They feel they have to do something new, special so they go out and buy new underwear, flowers, candy and they get a hotel room with a Jacuzzi."

Telltale signs of a cheating spouse is the surprise "business trip" or late office meeting, unexplained gifts and the depressed friend who needs a shoulder to cry on.

"This is the one day when infidelity and extra-marital affairs reach their peak," said Ruth Houston, author of "Is He Cheating on You -- 829 Telltale Signs".

"Any man who is cheating has to buy his mistress a gift, there's no way he can get around that if he wants to stay in her good graces and in her bed."

She said men or women who suspect their partners need to be extra alert on Valentine's Day and look for credit card receipts, new jewelry or lingerie, and unusual appointments so as to nail their partners.

"If she's wearing a red lace bra and panties don't believe it if she says her girlfriend bought them for her," she advised. "And if he shows up wearing a Rolex, the guys down at the sports bar did not take up a collection to buy it for him."

Jeanine Davis, 41, said she nabbed her husband with another woman on Valentine's Day last year after hiring a private eye to track him down that evening.

"They followed him and found him having dinner with her at a restaurant and then they took pictures of them kissing in the parking lot and he spent the night at her place," Davis, who is in the process of getting a divorce, told AFP.

Private Detectives of America's Delorenzo said he was working on about 50 infidelity cases this year. He charges between 500 and 1,000 dollars to confirm to a client whether a spouse is cheating and 650 dollars for five hours of surveillance.

One spouse who may be in for a Valentine's Day surprise this year is a Michigan man whose wife spotted an email confirming his hotel reservation for Tuesday, when he was supposed to be undergoing a special training session at work.

"The job is booked and he'll be under surveillance Valentine's Day," Dank said

mings · Post by **mings** » February 13, 2006 11:52 am

that's all bad news. kind of sad really - that peeps can't cheat in private.

sy · Post by sy » February 13, 2006 11:53 am

mings wrote:that's all bad news. kind of sad really - that peeps can't cheat in private.

mings · Post by **mings** » February 13, 2006 11:55 am

I'd like to think that I'd never need such a service, but then that places too much trust in the world. However, I hope my heart doesn't allow me to wed someone who is capable of that to begin with.

I'm having a hard enough time dating someone long distance right now - that I'd hate to have to act on top of it all. That's absurd, but I know people do it.

sy · Post by sy » February 13, 2006 11:58 am

mings wrote:I'd like to think that I'd never need such a service, but then that places too much trust in the world. However, I hope my heart doesn't allow me to wed someone who is capable of that to begin with.

I'm having a hard enough time dating someone long distance right now - that I'd hate to have to act on top of it all. That's absurd, but I know people do it.

I agree with you completely

Wino you know · Post by **Wino you know** » February 13, 2006 11:59 am

Valentine's Day is also America's National Salute to Veteran's day. (Not to be confused with VETERAN'S DAY, Nov. 11th).
My wife makes TONS of fudge and cookies, and I go to one of the elementary schools to pick up cards HAND MADE my school-age children to give to the Veterans at the Veteran's hospital in Iowa City. I take the cards and my wifes fudge and cookies to the Vets, and if there's anything that can stir my emotions more than seeing the joy on the faces of these heroic men and women, I've not yet experienced it.
I don't know WHY it's on Valentine's Day, but I don't care-I just feel good about myself when I do it.

mings · Post by **mings** » February 13, 2006 12:06 pm

sy wrote:
mings wrote:I'd like to think that I'd never need such a service, but then that places too much trust in the world. However, I hope my heart doesn't allow me to wed someone who is capable of that to begin with.

I'm having a hard enough time dating someone long distance right now - that I'd hate to have to act on top of it all. That's absurd, but I know people do it.
I agree with you completely

well then that's settled. Cool

sy · Post by sy » February 13, 2006 12:36 pm

mings wrote:
sy wrote:
mings wrote:I'd like to think that I'd never need such a service, but then that places too much trust in the world. However, I hope my heart doesn't allow me to wed someone who is capable of that to begin with.

I'm having a hard enough time dating someone long distance right now - that I'd hate to have to act on top of it all. That's absurd, but I know people do it.
I agree with you completely
well then that's settled. Cool

Damn, that's the shortest thread you've ever been involved in

mings · Post by **mings** » February 13, 2006 2:10 pm

sy wrote:
mings wrote:
sy wrote:
mings wrote:I'd like to think that I'd never need such a service, but then that places too much trust in the world. However, I hope my heart doesn't allow me to wed someone who is capable of that to begin with.

I'm having a hard enough time dating someone long distance right now - that I'd hate to have to act on top of it all. That's absurd, but I know people do it.
I agree with you completely
well then that's settled. Cool
Damn, that's the shortest thread you've ever been involved in

nah - we can work on this one.

I was talking about this...who cheats more - dudes or dudettes?

jonesbeach10 · Post by **jonesbeach10** » February 13, 2006 5:57 pm

Wino you know wrote:Valentine's Day is also America's National Salute to Veteran's day. (Not to be confused with VETERAN'S DAY, Nov. 11th).
My wife makes TONS of fudge and cookies, and I go to one of the elementary schools to pick up cards HAND MADE my school-age children to give to the Veterans at the Veteran's hospital in Iowa City. I take the cards and my wifes fudge and cookies to the Vets, and if there's anything that can stir my emotions more than seeing the joy on the faces of these heroic men and women, I've not yet experienced it.
I don't know WHY it's on Valentine's Day, but I don't care-I just feel good about myself when I do it.

That's Great. Kudos to you!!!

PartofthePhlock · Post by **PartofthePhlock** » February 13, 2006 6:00 pm

mings wrote:I was talking about this...who cheats more - dudes or dudettes?

Dudes!!!! Thats why girls throw rocks.

kitty · Post by **kitty** » February 13, 2006 6:52 pm

PartofthePhlock wrote:
mings wrote:I was talking about this...who cheats more - dudes or dudettes?
Dudes!!!! Thats why girls throw rocks.

The reports lately seem to have the woman right up there with the men....you know how easy it is for a suburban housewife to cheat while her hubby is away all day and sometimes on business trips? Wouldn't be too hard to do...and seems a lot of woman are starting the trend...not judging...just stating a fact.

rsgeist · Post by **rsgeist** » February 13, 2006 7:24 pm

kitty wrote:
PartofthePhlock wrote:
mings wrote:I was talking about this...who cheats more - dudes or dudettes?
Dudes!!!! Thats why girls throw rocks.
The reports lately seem to have the woman right up there with the men....you know how easy it is for a suburban housewife to cheat while her hubby is away all day and sometimes on business trips? Wouldn't be too hard to do...and seems a lot of woman are starting the trend...not judging...just stating a fact.

So, ya got any names & addresses? (purely for research purposes, of course)

sy · Post by sy » February 13, 2006 8:14 pm

kitty wrote:
PartofthePhlock wrote:
mings wrote:I was talking about this...who cheats more - dudes or dudettes?
Dudes!!!! Thats why girls throw rocks.
The reports lately seem to have the woman right up there with the men....you know how easy it is for a suburban housewife to cheat while her hubby is away all day and sometimes on business trips? Wouldn't be too hard to do...and seems a lot of woman are starting the trend...not judging...just stating a fact.

I agree with that, I don't think there's any deterring factor for either sex. I think both are equally capable of cheating.

mings · Post by **mings** » February 14, 2006 1:09 pm

kitty wrote:
PartofthePhlock wrote:
mings wrote:I was talking about this...who cheats more - dudes or dudettes?
Dudes!!!! Thats why girls throw rocks.
The reports lately seem to have the woman right up there with the men....you know how easy it is for a suburban housewife to cheat while her hubby is away all day and sometimes on business trips? Wouldn't be too hard to do...and seems a lot of woman are starting the trend...not judging...just stating a fact.

Kitty, do you have any contact information for anybody that fits that description?

mings · Post by **mings** » February 14, 2006 1:10 pm

rsgeist wrote:
kitty wrote:
PartofthePhlock wrote:
mings wrote:I was talking about this...who cheats more - dudes or dudettes?
Dudes!!!! Thats why girls throw rocks.
The reports lately seem to have the woman right up there with the men....you know how easy it is for a suburban housewife to cheat while her hubby is away all day and sometimes on business trips? Wouldn't be too hard to do...and seems a lot of woman are starting the trend...not judging...just stating a fact.
So, ya got any names & addresses? (purely for research purposes, of course)

you and I think alike. - scary - like blair witch scary.

sy · Post by sy » February 14, 2006 1:14 pm

mings wrote:you and I think alike. - scary - like blair witch scary.

Great, now I have an image of a prawn running screaming through the woods and a clown running behind with a camera.

Thanks....thanks a lot

mings · Post by **mings** » February 14, 2006 1:17 pm

sy wrote:
mings wrote:you and I think alike. - scary - like blair witch scary.
Great, now I have an image of a prawn running screaming through the woods and a clown running behind with a camera.

Thanks....thanks a lot

you know you like it. At least I'm giving you funny material to photoshop. Can you make a life size movie poster to that effect?

LIPH · Post by **LIPH** » February 14, 2006 1:18 pm

sy wrote:
kitty wrote:
PartofthePhlock wrote:
mings wrote:I was talking about this...who cheats more - dudes or dudettes?
Dudes!!!! Thats why girls throw rocks.
The reports lately seem to have the woman right up there with the men....you know how easy it is for a suburban housewife to cheat while her hubby is away all day and sometimes on business trips? Wouldn't be too hard to do...and seems a lot of woman are starting the trend...not judging...just stating a fact.
I agree with that, I don't think there's any deterring factor for either sex. I think both are equally capable of cheating.

Not all of us.

sy · Post by sy » February 14, 2006 1:31 pm

LIPH wrote:
sy wrote:
kitty wrote:
PartofthePhlock wrote:
mings wrote:I was talking about this...who cheats more - dudes or dudettes?
Dudes!!!! Thats why girls throw rocks.
The reports lately seem to have the woman right up there with the men....you know how easy it is for a suburban housewife to cheat while her hubby is away all day and sometimes on business trips? Wouldn't be too hard to do...and seems a lot of woman are starting the trend...not judging...just stating a fact.
I agree with that, I don't think there's any deterring factor for either sex. I think both are equally capable of cheating.
Not all of us.

Well, I think that's a given. I'm being very general in that both males and females are equally capable, not that all individuals are capable.