a little help from the married/commited/living with members

[rednekkPH]

She handles the administration of her accounts and I handle mine.
The mortgage is a joint account. If you think of a way to cancel that account and keep the house, please let me know

<< putting on thinking cap..
if I can figure that one out.. I may have a goldmine..

If you write that book, bro - I'll read it!

[ph4ever]

It's best that Don does the calling. (at least for now) I think I would be like Ron White when he was on the debate team in high school right now.

[buffettbride]

It's best that Don does the calling. (at least for now) I think I would be like Ron White when he was on the debate team in high school right now.

That's exactly why hubby does the calling for me. I'm not very nice-ish.

[Tequila Revenge]

If you're not on the account, "they" won't talk to you.

However, after 25 years of being hubby, take it for the team. In the big picture, not a biggy and a good opportunity for you to help her feel safer and cared for in your relationship. Of course there's the dark side if stuff like this goes on and on and on and on. Show her da love

Let the reactiions fly

[phjrsaunt]

I assume you're talking about people wanting to cancel their Direct TV? I used to get that sort of call right much at Time Life. My standard response would be to "bond" with them...."well, gosh, I sure don't want stand between a husband and wife...." or "speaking as a wife, I understand how the other half can be..."...get them on "my" side. I'd say yes, I can certainly cancel the account. "But would you mind to tell me what the reason is, if he/she told you? In case you didn't know, I can put the account on hold for a few months, and provide you with information that talks about "that reason" in the meantime. You can still cancel later if you want." Worked verrry well. I hate to sound conniving, but the better I did at retaining accounts, the better my paycheck was.

I can be very sincere when I try hard enough.

well not really just for me, I know some others that complain
of the same thing, one works for a cell phone co and another at the gym,
and the last one worked for a bank and all say they hear the same story..

and really this was more of a question for the relationship
side of me. I have not had a "serious" relationship in a while and I
was more just thinking what I would say to my loved one if faced with
that announcement.

Ahhh...I see
Much like Mr. and Mrs. Play, my hubby and I share very few accounts. And now that I think of it, those are also account that you can't cancel (loans, mortgage). I pay most of the "little" bills in the family (cable, long distance phone, electricity, etc.). One time, a loooooooooong time ago, he "took advantage" of an offer to switch long distance carriers (one of the bills I pay).....I did not feel it was a wise decision...we talked about it, and he did call them and cancel the service. He did "exaggerate" a bit when he called, now that I think about it. I remember him saying "I caught six KINDS of H@$* from the wife for doing this...PLEASE cancel it." Ever since then, we've had an "understanding" about these things. "History lesson, history lesson."

(and now for something completely different....)

[bumper]

Really depends on many factors...I tend to run the business side of the household so I would expect my wife to ask me to do it, would not bother me if she did, but generally speaking I usually take care of the ho hum stuff.
If she asked because she was afraid to or intimidated by making the call then I would handle it in a different way. Must say though, I pay for a service, I call to cancel last thing I want is somebody asking me why or trying talk me in to continueing.

[Soraya]

Must say though, I pay for a service, I call to cancel last thing I want is somebody asking me why or trying talk me in to continueing.

And they ALWAYS do. Ron had a huge hassle trying to cancel the landline....they tried everything to get him to keep it.

Heck, it was with Sprint...our cell phones are with Sprint...it's not like we were choosing not to do any sort of business with them.

[SharkOnLand]

The proper response is to roll your eyes , say "Yes Dear", and just do what the S/O asks.

[buffettbride]

Must say though, I pay for a service, I call to cancel last thing I want is somebody asking me why or trying talk me in to continueing.

And they ALWAYS do. Ron had a huge hassle trying to cancel the landline....they tried everything to get him to keep it.

Heck, it was with Sprint...our cell phones are with Sprint...it's not like we were choosing not to do any sort of business with them.

As a former employee of said company, the local operations for Sprint are on an entirely different umbrella than wireless services. Unless things have drastically changed since I work there, the local Sprint companies (which I think used to be called United) aren't even affiliated with the wireless/long distance part of the company.

[Quiet and Shy]

Must say though, I pay for a service, I call to cancel last thing I want is somebody asking me why or trying talk me in to continueing.

And they ALWAYS do.

This hasn't happened to me since yesterday. I called to cancel a service and they offered me a lower rate. I told them I thought it was unethical to have not provided this price break previously...she said it was a May special and they just hadn't called me yet.... And I still cancelled.

[phjrsaunt]

Must say though, I pay for a service, I call to cancel last thing I want is somebody asking me why or trying talk me in to continueing.

And they ALWAYS do.

This hasn't happened to me since yesterday. I called to cancel a service and they offered me a lower rate. I told them I thought it was unethical to have not provided this price break previously...she said it was a May special and they just hadn't called me yet.... And I still cancelled.

THAT tactic sounds underhanded and I would not have done it when I worked in that capacity. And speaking as someone who took primarily the "cancel" calls at call center, "they" really do make it worth our (the employees') while to "save" accounts. Having said that, there were limits to what I was willing to do. Fortunately, I worked for a company that shared pretty much the same principles as I. (Said company is now owned by another company, and has changed dramatically.)

[conched]

If there is a good reason, I'd say OK and call and cancel.

[sy]

I call and take care of it. I know better than to tell him to do it. It's happened in the past and a bigger mess has been created that I need to take of than if I just do it myself and know it's done right the first time

He pulled that once when we had dsl, and I kept putting it off thinking he would do it. Then I got called in the middle of the night for work, desperately needed the dsl, it wasn't working yet again, and I had to drive into work at 2:30am. Needless to say, I called first thing in the morning to get everything switched over to cable modem.

Phone, bills, finances, the house, dinner, food shopping, whatever it is, I'm in charge of it. He loves it and I know everything's all good. It keeps peace in the house.

[Tiki Bar]

OK so here's what I want to know, What do you say if your
S/O comes home and announces..
"I am mad at _____ you call and cancel the account
Ihave found a new service."



the service could be the Cell phones,Cable,gym,Bank,Credit card..
ETC.

what would you say??

Yes dear!

I've apparently transformed from his wife to his secretary over the years.

[conched]

I call and take care of it. I know better than to tell him to do it. It's happened in the past and a bigger mess has been created that I need to take of than if I just do it myself and know it's done right the first time

He pulled that once when we had dsl, and I kept putting it off thinking he would do it. Then I got called in the middle of the night for work, desperately needed the dsl, it wasn't working yet again, and I had to drive into work at 2:30am. Needless to say, I called first thing in the morning to get everything switched over to cable modem.

Phone, bills, finances, the house, dinner, food shopping, whatever it is, I'm in charge of it. He loves it and I know everything's all good. It keeps peace in the house.

I like to take care of things too...in exchange for him doing the grocery shopping. I like shopping for groceries only when I feel like it. So, that is a huge help to me.

He's a big help when it comes to "shopping" around for the best insurance rates, etc.

For the most part, we stick with the services we start with, unless there is a huge problem and one of us has FINALLY "had it" with them.

We always try to agree before we change anything, so we are on the same side, but I have made "a" call and said HE wants to cancel when I really didn't want to. It really meant a lot in the long-run!

Just recently I took care of having a new cooktop installed. One burner didn't work. I wanted a whole new cooktop, since it was broken to begin with. They said they would come out and replace the part and it would be good as new. He agreed...so I let him take care of it when they showed up and stayed outside. I think that tells them how I felt about it. If it keeps working...a-ok! When/if it breaks again...I'll go round and round with them until I get a new one!!

"Relationships!!!! Everybody wants em; what do you do with them?!!" (JB)

[tikitatas]

We each handle our own things, and present a most formidable front when we join forces if there are problems with services. They don't stand a chance against our research and logic.

[phjrsaunt]

I call and take care of it. I know better than to tell him to do it. It's happened in the past and a bigger mess has been created that I need to take of than if I just do it myself and know it's done right the first time

He pulled that once when we had dsl, and I kept putting it off thinking he would do it. Then I got called in the middle of the night for work, desperately needed the dsl, it wasn't working yet again, and I had to drive into work at 2:30am. Needless to say, I called first thing in the morning to get everything switched over to cable modem.

Phone, bills, finances, the house, dinner, food shopping, whatever it is, I'm in charge of it. He loves it and I know everything's all good. It keeps peace in the house.

Never leave a man to do a woman's job

[Paradise]

If Mr Top asked me to do it... I would . I may not like it... but I have learned that if it will have no impact on my life a year from now... its not worth arguing about it.[/quote]


I love this!!!! My huby and I have been having a rough go this year. This is going to be my new motto!!!! Thanx

[sy]

Never leave a man to do a woman's job

Saves me a lot of time and effort

[ragtopW]

Must say though, I pay for a service, I call to cancel last thing I want is somebody asking me why or trying talk me in to continueing.

And they ALWAYS do. Ron had a huge hassle trying to cancel the landline....they tried everything to get him to keep it.

Heck, it was with Sprint...our cell phones are with Sprint...it's not like we were choosing not to do any sort of business with them.

hey you guys are talking about my Paycheck here..