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Whats the best way to asked someone if they are into you?
Posted: July 17, 2006 10:24 pm
by msu#1
So I've had it with the mixed signals and tomorrow I'm gonna ask the girl if she's just my friend or if she's more. The problem is Im not sure about the the way I should say it. Any ideas??? We are friends but I assumed we were more until she told someone she hasnt been on a date in a year and we just went to a wedding together this weekend??? I dont want to sound like a dick but I want to tell her I cant be just friends. Anyone have some helpful advice
Posted: July 17, 2006 10:26 pm
by finsupnorth
well, maybe ask her "out on a date"...call her up and invite her to dinner and be very clear that it is a "date"....then during that date, tell her that you would like to continue dating exclusively and ask her if she is interested in that with your relationship or not....
Posted: July 17, 2006 10:29 pm
by SMLCHNG
Jolena has some good advice.
But I'm curious - why can't you "Just be friends"?? Being friends with a person, and then possibly falling in love makes for a VERY good relationship.
Posted: July 17, 2006 10:32 pm
by buffettbride
grab her boob. if ya still have yer nuts when you're done, then she likes you as more than a friend.
or just do what penny and jolena said.
Posted: July 17, 2006 10:33 pm
by prrthd1987
buffettbride wrote:grab her boob. if ya still have yer nuts when you're done, then she likes you as more than a friend.
or just do what penny and jolena said.
You really do like boobies, dont you?
Posted: July 17, 2006 10:36 pm
by buffettbride
prrthd1987 wrote:buffettbride wrote:grab her boob. if ya still have yer nuts when you're done, then she likes you as more than a friend.
or just do what penny and jolena said.
You really do like boobies, dont you?
What is not to like about boobies?
Posted: July 17, 2006 10:37 pm
by prrthd1987
buffettbride wrote:prrthd1987 wrote:buffettbride wrote:grab her boob. if ya still have yer nuts when you're done, then she likes you as more than a friend.
or just do what penny and jolena said.
You really do like boobies, dont you?
What is not to like about boobies?
Oh I'm all for the boobies! But you are exceptionally into them
Posted: July 17, 2006 10:38 pm
by buffettbride
prrthd1987 wrote:buffettbride wrote:prrthd1987 wrote:buffettbride wrote:grab her boob. if ya still have yer nuts when you're done, then she likes you as more than a friend.
or just do what penny and jolena said.
You really do like boobies, dont you?
What is not to like about boobies?
Oh I'm all for the boobies! But you are exceptionally into them
I'm just all about the boobie love, I guess.
Posted: July 17, 2006 10:44 pm
by Brown Eyed Girl
buffettbride wrote:prrthd1987 wrote:buffettbride wrote:prrthd1987 wrote:buffettbride wrote:grab her boob. if ya still have yer nuts when you're done, then she likes you as more than a friend.
or just do what penny and jolena said.
You really do like boobies, dont you?
What is not to like about boobies?
Oh I'm all for the boobies! But you are exceptionally into them
I'm just all about the boobie love, I guess.
I'm sooooo getting you this hat:
Hmm, it may be a bit small...but I could get ya two of them and you could wear 'em on your boobies.
Posted: July 17, 2006 10:46 pm
by buffettbride
Brown Eyed Girl wrote:buffettbride wrote:prrthd1987 wrote:buffettbride wrote:prrthd1987 wrote:buffettbride wrote:grab her boob. if ya still have yer nuts when you're done, then she likes you as more than a friend.
or just do what penny and jolena said.
You really do like boobies, dont you?
What is not to like about boobies?
Oh I'm all for the boobies! But you are exceptionally into them
I'm just all about the boobie love, I guess.
I'm sooooo getting you this hat:
Hmm, it may be a bit small...but I could get ya two of them and you could wear 'em on your boobies.
I must have that (or 2)!!! They are actually each about the size of a baby head, so your idea would prolly work.
Posted: July 17, 2006 11:22 pm
by msu#1
SMLCHNG wrote:Jolena has some good advice.
But I'm curious - why can't you "Just be friends"?? Being friends with a person, and then possibly falling in love makes for a VERY good relationship.
We are already friends, I just feel different now and I've done that before only to have to listen to talk about other guys and it sucked. I cant do that again ever. For the most part I've always known where I stood, but this time is different and Im nervous for some reason like a 7th grader to asked, but then again maybe I already know the answer in my head and thats why I feel flustered. It might be because she's been thru alot and I dont want to pile on by saying I cant be your friend but I have to look out for me, I put people ahead way too much. Hopefully I get the answer I want and its all moot.
Posted: July 17, 2006 11:32 pm
by Brown Eyed Girl
msu#1 wrote:SMLCHNG wrote:Jolena has some good advice.
But I'm curious - why can't you "Just be friends"?? Being friends with a person, and then possibly falling in love makes for a VERY good relationship.
We are already friends, I just feel different now and I've done that before only to have to listen to talk about other guys and it sucked. I cant do that again ever. For the most part I've always known where I stood, but this time is different and Im nervous for some reason like a 7th grader to asked, but then again maybe I already know the answer in my head and thats why I feel flustered. It might be because she's been thru alot and I dont want to pile on by saying I cant be your friend but I have to look out for me, I put people ahead way too much. Hopefully I get the answer I want and its all moot.
I don't get it. If she says she doesn't have romantic feelings for you, you can't be her friend anymore? That's rather shallow, which may be why you feel like you're still in junior high.
Posted: July 17, 2006 11:36 pm
by msu#1
Brown Eyed Girl wrote:msu#1 wrote:SMLCHNG wrote:Jolena has some good advice.
But I'm curious - why can't you "Just be friends"?? Being friends with a person, and then possibly falling in love makes for a VERY good relationship.
We are already friends, I just feel different now and I've done that before only to have to listen to talk about other guys and it sucked. I cant do that again ever. For the most part I've always known where I stood, but this time is different and Im nervous for some reason like a 7th grader to asked, but then again maybe I already know the answer in my head and thats why I feel flustered. It might be because she's been thru alot and I dont want to pile on by saying I cant be your friend but I have to look out for me, I put people ahead way too much. Hopefully I get the answer I want and its all moot.
I don't get it. If she says she doesn't have romantic feelings for you, you can't be her friend anymore? That's rather shallow, which may be why you feel like you're still in junior high.
I got burned bad by the last girl, so maybe it is shallow but Im not the type of person who can just drop feelings if Im still hanging around with someone so I know it would be better for both if thats the case.
Posted: July 18, 2006 12:07 am
by SharkOnLand
I second the booby idea.
Posted: July 18, 2006 12:14 am
by dean_siu
If she's facing the other way, you could always grab a butt cheek....not quite as effective as a booby, but it will get the job done in a pinch.
Than, when she turns around all startled....grab the booby as well!
Posted: July 18, 2006 5:33 am
by katwich
msu#1 wrote:Brown Eyed Girl wrote:msu#1 wrote:SMLCHNG wrote:Jolena has some good advice.
But I'm curious - why can't you "Just be friends"?? Being friends with a person, and then possibly falling in love makes for a VERY good relationship.
We are already friends, I just feel different now and I've done that before only to have to listen to talk about other guys and it sucked. I cant do that again ever. For the most part I've always known where I stood, but this time is different and Im nervous for some reason like a 7th grader to asked, but then again maybe I already know the answer in my head and thats why I feel flustered. It might be because she's been thru alot and I dont want to pile on by saying I cant be your friend but I have to look out for me, I put people ahead way too much. Hopefully I get the answer I want and its all moot.
I don't get it. If she says she doesn't have romantic feelings for you, you can't be her friend anymore? That's rather shallow, which may be why you feel like you're still in junior high.
I got burned bad by the last girl, so maybe it is shallow but Im not the type of person who can just drop feelings if Im still hanging around with someone so I know it would be better for both if thats the case.
Typically, depending on how long you've been friends, a girl will throw off signals of some sort, maybe touching, hugging, something to indicate there is a spark there....is any of that going on? Sometimes when we say we're not sure, it's just that we don't like the answer and are hoping for a better one!
BUT when it comes to relationships seems like all bets are off
I had one of my guy friends ask me, in passing, why we never dated, just made it casual, that opened the door to the discussion. Now we decided it wasn't a good thing for us to date and you have to be equally prepared for that answer and handle it - just smile, nod go oh gee I was just thinking, then let it go - then handle your exit from the relationship quietly, can't be drawing lines in the sand and trying to force her to feel something she doesn't or punish her because she's not in the same place as you - that's the hard part....rejection suks....
Posted: July 18, 2006 6:52 am
by RinglingRingling
SMLCHNG wrote:Jolena has some good advice.
But I'm curious - why can't you "Just be friends"?? Being friends with a person, and then possibly falling in love makes for a VERY good relationship.
Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Albright: Why not?
Harry Burns: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally Albright: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: You only think you do.
Sally Albright: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry Burns: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: How do you know?
Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally Albright: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Sally Albright: What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU?
Harry Burns: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally Albright: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry Burns: I guess not.
Sally Albright: That's too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.
Posted: July 18, 2006 6:54 am
by ParrotHeadDeb
Re: Whats the best way to asked someone if they are into you
Posted: July 18, 2006 6:57 am
by RinglingRingling
msu#1 wrote:So I've had it with the mixed signals and tomorrow I'm gonna ask the girl if she's just my friend or if she's more. The problem is Im not sure about the the way I should say it. Any ideas??? We are friends but I assumed we were more until she told someone she hasnt been on a date in a year and we just went to a wedding together this weekend??? I dont want to sound like a dick but I want to tell her I cant be just friends. Anyone have some helpful advice
You could always quote the lyrics from "A Love Song (from a different point of view)". Depending on how she takes it, the issue could be resolved in less time than it takes to rub your jaw..
Posted: July 18, 2006 9:00 am
by LIPH
Get right to the point - wanna f**k?