I've got a question for you.

captenuta · Post by **captenuta** » July 24, 2006 3:55 pm

OceanCityGirl wrote:siblings never outgrow beating each other up. Go for an old fashioned brother attack.

He's my brother inlaw. But thanks for the great idea.

SharkOnLand · Post by **SharkOnLand** » July 24, 2006 3:56 pm

captenuta wrote:
Bubbaphan wrote:What a DI*K! Ban him till he cuts that crap out.

whatajerkwad!
By the way he called me today to see if I was coming to their party on saturday I said no but my wife and daughter were going. He didn't get why I was still mad and said, get this "we just have different parenting styles".

Go to their party, and eat all their food, then beat the crap out of him, in front of everyone

NYCPORT · Post by **NYCPORT** » July 24, 2006 4:02 pm

I think you and your kids should start calling him needle dick! If he comes back with doughboy just tell him you can lose weight, he'll always have a needle dick. BTW, even if he doesn't have a needle dick it will stick with the kids and he'll never live it down!

krusin1 · Post by **krusin1** » July 24, 2006 4:07 pm

He's totally out of line. Sorry for your wife's poor choice in family.

That being said, I'd suggest telling him that he won't be welcome in your home, and your family will attend no more family functions that he will be at so long as his verbally abusive behavior continues.

Calling names or making fun of people is NOT a behavior you want your kids to pick up. (BTW... dear wife ought to be with you on this - none of this going to the party while you stay home nonsense.

)

Good luck.

ph4ever · Post by **ph4ever** » July 24, 2006 4:11 pm

krusin1 wrote:He's totally out of line. Sorry for your wife's poor choice in family.

That being said, I'd suggest telling him that he won't be welcome in your home, and your family will attend no more family functions that he will be at so long as his verbally abusive behavior continues.

Calling names or making fun of people is NOT a behavior you want your kids to pick up. (BTW... dear wife ought to be with you on this - none of this going to the party while you stay home nonsense. )

Good luck.

but still beat him with a rolling pin first

krusin1 · Post by **krusin1** » July 24, 2006 4:16 pm

ph4ever wrote:
krusin1 wrote:He's totally out of line. Sorry for your wife's poor choice in family.

That being said, I'd suggest telling him that he won't be welcome in your home, and your family will attend no more family functions that he will be at so long as his verbally abusive behavior continues.

Calling names or making fun of people is NOT a behavior you want your kids to pick up. (BTW... dear wife ought to be with you on this - none of this going to the party while you stay home nonsense. )

Good luck.

but still beat him with a rolling pin first

Yeah, the rolling pin is still a good option, too.

Bubbaphan · Post by **Bubbaphan** » July 24, 2006 4:17 pm

NYCPORT wrote:I think you and your kids should start calling him needle dick! If he comes back with doughboy just tell him you can lose weight, he'll always have a needle dick. BTW, even if he doesn't have a needle dick it will stick with the kids and he'll never live it down!

green1 · Post by **green1** » July 24, 2006 4:25 pm

Totally outrageous of him, and you and your wife for allowing it to conitnue.

Not to sound like an ass, but you need to stop this behavior. Because it will not stop on it's own. This guy sounds like he was the local bully as a kid, and never grew out of it. You need to stand up to him, and your no-show at the cookout is merely letting him know he got to you. More fuel for the fire.

Not sure if the response should be physical, emotional or intellectual. You need to figure that out and act. Most importantly, act. Only then will it stop.

captenuta · Post by **captenuta** » July 24, 2006 4:29 pm

krusin1 wrote:He's totally out of line. Sorry for your wife's poor choice in family.

That being said, I'd suggest telling him that he won't be welcome in your home, and your family will attend no more family functions that he will be at so long as his verbally abusive behavior continues.

Calling names or making fun of people is NOT a behavior you want your kids to pick up. (BTW... dear wife ought to be with you on this - none of this going to the party while you stay home nonsense. )

Good luck.

Thanks for you thoughts. The party is for my nephew's birthday. My wife and daughter are going for him. I will be sending a gift. I'm thinking of a water gun with a note saying he can play with it in the house.

SharkOnLand · Post by **SharkOnLand** » July 24, 2006 4:37 pm

captenuta wrote:
krusin1 wrote:He's totally out of line. Sorry for your wife's poor choice in family.

That being said, I'd suggest telling him that he won't be welcome in your home, and your family will attend no more family functions that he will be at so long as his verbally abusive behavior continues.

Calling names or making fun of people is NOT a behavior you want your kids to pick up. (BTW... dear wife ought to be with you on this - none of this going to the party while you stay home nonsense. )

Good luck.
Thanks for you thoughts. The party is for my nephew's birthday. My wife and daughter are going for him. I will be sending a gift. I'm thinking of a water gun with a note saying he can play with it in the house.

Get the most obnoxious toy you can... one that makes horrid noises and LOUD....

sy · Post by sy » July 24, 2006 4:48 pm

captenuta wrote:
OceanCityGirl wrote:siblings never outgrow beating each other up. Go for an old fashioned brother attack.
He's my brother inlaw. But thanks for the great idea.

What does your wife think of him and his kids acting like this?

(if that was already answered, sorry, I completely missed it).

AdamBomb8 · Post by **AdamBomb8** » July 24, 2006 4:53 pm

I think your brother-in-law is an

Its not enough that he calls you that but to teach his children to do that is beyond wrong. Wonder what he'll be teaching his kids to do to other children at school. Some "parenting style" that is.

LIPH · Post by **LIPH** » July 24, 2006 4:56 pm

I thought my sister's first husband was an a-hole so I taught my nephew how to flip the bird when he was about 4 years old.

sy · Post by sy » July 24, 2006 4:57 pm

AdamBomb8 wrote:Wonder what he'll be teaching his kids to do to other children at school. Some "parenting style" that is.

That's the bigger issue. My mother's dealt with enough parents who actually view 'bullying' as okay and it 'toughens 'em up'. It's nothing short of pathetic.

'Course, over the years, more often than not, their kids have either flunked out, or ended up in far more trouble than just making another kid cry by calling them names.

mermaidindisguise · Post by **mermaidindisguise** » July 24, 2006 5:53 pm

"Whatever with you - I may be a doughboy but your ugly and I can diet"

(even though you are not a doughboy... I always love that response - I have used it several times and it always shuts people up!)

on a serious note... I would tell him how much you don't like it... if you avoid him enough and stay mad - he should eventually get the hint. If he doesn't - are you really missing the time with him?

El mojito · Post by **El mojito** » July 24, 2006 6:26 pm

LIPH wrote:I thought my sister's first husband was an a-hole so I taught my nephew how to flip the bird when he was about 4 years old.

Now Thats great

When you sit next to him , make the mistake of sitting on his leg real hard and just look at him and say ooops

scubamyk · Post by **scubamyk** » July 24, 2006 6:30 pm

Interesting.
My brother-in-law has always called me "Aunt Mike" because I like to cook, I'm neat, I dress well, etc. while I call him a loveable, easygoing redneck.
Strange thing is that he will not allow his children to call me that. It is always uncle Mike. In fact, our whole family is very serious about respect of elders and all of our kids use the terms aunt and uncle, NOT just first names.
In your case I would probably go that route and explain the respect issue.

jackiesic · Post by **jackiesic** » July 24, 2006 7:00 pm

I would pull him aside and in the nicest way possible tell him that you were NOT joking, to please stopand again state the reasons why. Then say " If you don't stop, I'm going to __________"
(fill in the blank with whatever works for you) and then follow thru next time it happens. He can't say he was not sufficiently warned.
What a JERK!

tikitatas · Post by **tikitatas** » July 24, 2006 8:51 pm

Not acceptable. Tell him.

ragtopW · Post by **ragtopW** » July 24, 2006 9:59 pm

rednekkPH wrote:I think this is a great opportunity to teach those kids a valuable lesson about the consequences of one's actions, by beating the hell out of their dad the next time he calls you that.

yeah He would call me that once..