I've got a question for you.

[sy]

Is it just me, or does the thought of Frankie gettin' all rough and tumble get ya kinda hot?

[Tiki Bar]

I would just like to get all of your thought's on this.
My brother inlaw calls me doughboy and he also gets his kids to call me that. He thinks this is funny and harmless. I am over weight and do not like being call this especialy by my niece (3yrs old) and nephew(6yrs old). I've ask him to stop he refuses. How many of you think this is outrages behavior?

As for the subject at hand, yes I do think it's outrageous behavior. I don't know, from all of the possible suggestions you've gotten, if anything will actually work for your idiot brother in law... some people will just never stop no matter how hard you try.

But I'd hope you could appeal to his wife and kids. I'm guessing he treats them equally crappy, and they'll understand the hurt feelings that you experience. If you talk to the kids openly about it (sure, the 3 y.o. won't be able to really grasp it, but the 6 y.o. will) maybe they will learn not to follow in his footsteps, rather to treat poeple with kindness and respect. Uncles can be very influential, and it seems these kids can use a good role model!

[captenuta]

"I've got a question for you."

Please grant me an interview!

(did anyone else think that?)

I did!

But back to the topic at hand, I agree with everyone else that your BIL is wayyyyy out of line here. My hubby is a bit overweight, too, and if anyone in my family ever called him a name or made fun of him b/c of it, they would definitely be hearing about it from me. If your wife isn't standing up for you here, she needs to step up to the plate and chat with her brother. Have you and your wife talked about this at all?

As for you not going to the party, I don't blame you for not wanting to go. But you shouldn't let your BIL's idiocy hurt your relationship with your nephew. I'm not saying you should go...but it is shame that this has led to you missing out on the b-day party.

Not a big deal missing the party. Like I said before I will send a gift (water gun for indoor use only). This is my sisters husband and I wouldn't ask my wife to say anything on my behalf but she can only take so much.

[CUparrot]

Not a big deal missing the party. Like I said before I will send a gift (water gun for indoor use only). This is my sisters husband and I wouldn't ask my wife to say anything on my behalf but she can only take so much.

My bad...I was confused, thinking it was your wife's brother. Well, then....since it is your sister's husband, has she said anything to him? It seems like he's obviously not listening to you about it....maybe someone else needs to get on his case about it.

If that doesn't work, I'm for the rolling pin suggestion.

[Hockey Mon]

I would just like to get all of your thought's on this.
My brother inlaw calls me doughboy and he also gets his kids to call me that. He thinks this is funny and harmless. I am over weight and do not like being call this especialy by my niece (3yrs old) and nephew(6yrs old). I've ask him to stop he refuses. How many of you think this is outrages behavior?

Like everyone else has said, that sort of behavior is unacceptable and just plain mean. It doesn't teach the kids anything good and although the 3yr old has no idea what she is saying, the 6yr more than likely does. There have been some fine suggestions on what to do with him; beating the cr*p out of him would feel good but ultimately probably teach him nothing.
You could try talking to his wife, explaining that this is poor behavior and then both of you could talk to him. I don't know if his wife is your sister or your wife's sister but either of them should understand this has to stop. He might listen if he has 2 people telling him this isn't right. Just a thought. Good luck.

[Wino you know]

Okay, so I'm a bit weird-but when someone teases me about my fashionably portly existance, it doesn't bother me too much.
BUT, if some little punk-a$$ kid starts flapping his gums at me, he/she has two choices-turn around and get the hell away from me, or get their neck stretched.
For adults that tease me about it, I either ignore it, or come back with something like, "YEAH, I'm fat, but YOU'RE an ugly a-hole, and I can go on a diet." Or, if you really want to get a rise out of them, tell them how ugly their kids are.

[ragtopW]

Where is Rogue???

I get a big picture of one of My BILs pulling that..

[captenuta]

I want to thank everyone for their support and advise on this issue. I'll update all of you after the weekend.

[citcat]

I still say, a BB gun shot to the balls-a-rino as a last resort.