Posted: January 9, 2007 9:49 pm
Well said, my friend.SchoolGirlHeart wrote:It took me a long time (way too long) to understand that a funeral isn't so much for the person gone as it is for those left behind. There's little to review about such a short life, but the parents need that sense of closure, and they desperately need the support of family, friends, and co-workers.
There's not much that can be said, but a simple "I'm so sorry" and a handshake or a hug means more than you can imagine.
I'd also consider hitting the lounge after the funeral, rather than before. It's a lot harder to maintain your composure if you're buzzed...
My nieces (twins) were just a few days old when I learned of their deaths. I was not sure how I could remain composed while attending their burial. But my family needed me to be there and to maintain.
So I did.
Be there. It does help.