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I've never posted a new topic but I'm looking for answers and could use any help I can get.

Can anyone tell me what the kids in their area do prom weekend once the acutual prom is over?

By us the senior "rite of passage" seems to be the kids renting a big house in the rich, vacation-land area of our county. It's very expensive, the minimum rental is usually 2 nights (making it even more expensive), it's not all partying but that's what mostly goes on and the police are always on alert looking for trouble (sometimes where none even exists.) There's a lot of peer pressure among the kids as this is "the thing to do" but some of them are looking for an alternative.

I know, being the creative and fun people BNer's are, you guys can help me out! Any suggestions would be greatly apprectiated.

I'd say I went to an "average" high school. There was an after-prom party at the school that lasted until 5am and then go out for breakfast at Denny's or something.

One year after after-prom my friend and I drove from Denver to Laramie, WY to see her boyfriend.

At our high school they have an after prom AT the high school (the prom is usually somewhere else). Of course, nobody wanted to GO to that party, so they sweetened the deal by getting a local car dealer to donate a car that one of the attendees wins. They also have other "cool" prizes donated to get them to attend. We used to have parties at peoples houses or camps; I wouldn't want to be a parent responsible for hosting anything these days!

comemonday wrote:At our high school they have an after prom AT the high school (the prom is usually somewhere else). Of course, nobody wanted to GO to that party, so they sweetened the deal by getting a local car dealer to donate a car that one of the attendees wins. They also have other "cool" prizes donated to get them to attend. We used to have parties at peoples houses or camps; I wouldn't want to be a parent responsible for hosting anything these days!

Around here, there are usually "Project Prom" parties or the like (no alcohol, supervision, prizes, etc.) sponsored by parents and local businesses.

As for the whole rent-the-house-and-party thing, I would STRONGLY advise you to shut that nonsense down. Can't imagine much good coming out of it. Plus if something bad DID happen... somebody's going to have a real liability situation on their hands.


Also, IMHO, it's kind of sad if your after-prom party ends up being the most elaborate bash of your life...


On this topic... a couple of years ago a school (in NY?) canceled Prom because of how ridiculous the whole dresses/limo/party thing got.


When the principal finally took a stand, I think the whole community breathed a sigh of relief. They all knew it was ridiculous, but until then nobody had guts enough to be the "bad guy" and say enough is enough.

Steer clear of whatever party she's going to:

In small town BFE, for our prom, parents would get together and raise money and such. They would rent a place, the Elks lodge, or a bowling alley or whatever, and hire entertainment (hypnotists or whatever). They would also have door prizes and drawings for bigger giveaways (a TV or whatever).

It would wrap up about 5 or 6 in the morning, and we'd all go home and sleep.

I never went to my prom. I did, however, go to quite a few after-prom busch parties.

I took Christine to her prom. I was the most popular guy there...I was the only one old enough to buy beer.

SharkOnLand wrote:In small town BFE, for our prom, parents would get together and raise money and such. They would rent a place, the Elks lodge, or a bowling alley or whatever, and hire entertainment (hypnotists or whatever). They would also have door prizes and drawings for bigger giveaways (a TV or whatever).

It would wrap up about 5 or 6 in the morning, and we'd all go home and sleep. (or whatever)

fixed it for ya.

I'm confused. I thought the whole idea of going to the prom was so you could stay out all night after it was over and ***** like bunnies.

comemonday wrote:At our high school they have an after prom AT the high school (the prom is usually somewhere else). Of course, nobody wanted to GO to that party, so they sweetened the deal by getting a local car dealer to donate a car that one of the attendees wins. They also have other "cool" prizes donated to get them to attend. We used to have parties at peoples houses or camps; I wouldn't want to be a parent responsible for hosting anything these days!

I like the idea of "raffling" off the car. What teenager wouldn't want a new car? (except of course all the ones who already have them )

Thanks for all your tips thus far and keep them coming!

buffettbride wrote:

SharkOnLand wrote:In small town BFE, for our prom, parents would get together and raise money and such. They would rent a place, the Elks lodge, or a bowling alley or whatever, and hire entertainment (hypnotists or whatever). They would also have door prizes and drawings for bigger giveaways (a TV or whatever).

It would wrap up about 5 or 6 in the morning, and we'd all go home and sleep. (or whatever)

fixed it for ya.

I didn't even realize I had overdone the "or whatever"s....

SharkOnLand wrote:

buffettbride wrote:

SharkOnLand wrote:In small town BFE, for our prom, parents would get together and raise money and such. They would rent a place, the Elks lodge, or a bowling alley or whatever, and hire entertainment (hypnotists or whatever). They would also have door prizes and drawings for bigger giveaways (a TV or whatever).

It would wrap up about 5 or 6 in the morning, and we'd all go home and sleep. (or whatever)

fixed it for ya.

I didn't even realize I had overdone the "or whatever"s....

well you know, whatever.

LIPH wrote:I'm confused. I thought the whole idea of going to the prom was so you could stay out all night after it was over and f*** like bunnies.

HHHHhem - Larry - part of what us moms are tring to avoid happening.

lock in at the hs then breakfast at a kind parents. My kids have a friend whose parents have a garage apt. They went to his house every year for after prom. The parents periodically walked in to keep trouble to a minimum but the kids were also getting alot of freedom. I suspect some small amount of alcohol was smuggled in. But the kids never knew when a parent would walk in.
What I would do would depend on the age. Anything under sr. I wouldn't even consider the overnight thing. When I was growing up the thing to do was to go to Wildwood. And then sr. year Atlantic City. We generally got into a decent amount of trouble.

OceanCityGirl wrote: My kids have a friend whose parents have a garage apt. They went to his house every year for after prom. The parents periodically walked in to keep trouble to a minimum but the kids were also getting alot of freedom. I suspect some small amount of alcohol was smuggled in. But the kids never knew when a parent would walk in.

That's generally what goes on most weekends. They'll go to someone's house to chill, the parents will pop in every so often, there sometimes is some beer snuck in (although reliable sources tell not many partake in the drinking), they play ping pong, pool, whatever and enjoy each other's company.

That's why the house thing for prom weekend is a big deal -- it's like a step up from this. They're basically on their own with the exception of a chaperone or two.

Our school has tried doing the after prom party at the school but no one comes. That's why the car raffle is such a great idea.

Jollymom21 wrote:

LIPH wrote:I'm confused. I thought the whole idea of going to the prom was so you could stay out all night after it was over and f*** like bunnies.

HHHHhem - Larry - part of what us moms are tring to avoid happening.

I'm a guy and I don't have kids. What can I say?

LIPH wrote:

Jollymom21 wrote:

LIPH wrote:I'm confused. I thought the whole idea of going to the prom was so you could stay out all night after it was over and f*** like bunnies.

HHHHhem - Larry - part of what us moms are tring to avoid happening.

I'm a guy and I don't have kids. What can I say?

Gee - ya think??

How old is your keet and her friends? Are they seniors? The away house thing always made me nervous. I worry about binge drinking mostly. The other things they could do whenever they want at home and probably get away with.
Are they really good kids, not looking for a chance to party? If you really feel that then maybe you could hire an older college sibling to go with them. But that's alot of responsibility. On the plus side, a house means nobody will be drinking and driving.

LIPH wrote:I'm confused. I thought the whole idea of going to the prom was so you could stay out all night after it was over and f*** like bunnies.

well since i graduated 2 years ago...i know a lil about this....

we went to our friend kari's house and her parents took all of our keys and we all had to stay over...it was a lot of fun...im not going to say anything else because its stuff that parents might not want to hear...

i drank tequila thats all i have to say about that

OceanCityGirl wrote:How old is your keet and her friends? Are they seniors? The away house thing always made me nervous. I worry about binge drinking mostly. The other things they could do whenever they want at home and probably get away with.
Are they really good kids, not looking for a chance to party? If you really feel that then maybe you could hire an older college sibling to go with them. But that's alot of responsibility. On the plus side, a house means nobody will be drinking and driving.

They're srs and good kids (top of the class, scholar athletes, etc.) Some of them drink on occasion, parties, etc. but for the most part they're really good kids. The house would afford them "freedom" they don't get at home being they're away from their parents, etc. (although the house will provide a chaperone and asks at least one parent to chaperone). I know they "wouldn't do anything I wouldn't do" but as the police always know when these houses are rented to prom kids, I guess I fear that someone will do something *silly* (like bring beer et al), and if the police do get involved, the many will suffer from the actions of a few. (What can I say, I'm a Mom and I worry!! ).

You are right though about the house (hopefully) keeping them from drinking and driving.