What is wrong with women these days?

[flipflopgirl]

I have an even bigger question.....


Why do women buy sandals so small their heels hang off the back about an inch?

Do these sandals make my heels look fat?

No, your fat heels make your heels look fat.

SPEEEEEEEEWWWWWWWW!!!!!

[LIPH]

I am not that obtuse.

I love it! How many threads can we work BN's new favorite word into today?

extra points to you for using it correctly in a sentence...

I wonder what that hot babe was trying to tell me when she positioned herself at an obtuse angle.

[LIPH]

but ALAS, just because you can get it on....DOESN'T MEAN IT FITS....

In my best Marvin Gaye voice ...
Let's get it on

[Brown Eyed Girl]

but ALAS, just because you can get it on....DOESN'T MEAN IT FITS....

In my best Marvin Gaye voice ...
Let's get it on

That was going to be my response to your other post.

[Wino you know]

The problem with some men is they think they're God's gift to women.

The problem with others is they know they're not.

[SharkOnLand]

My biggest problem with women is that they're usually wearing too many clothes.

[seminolegrl06]

you know this is ssooo funny to me.

I said what all woman think but not dare say in public.

I am judged, each of you women dismissed me.

Than everyone wonders why girls today, when making decisions about their life and seeking approval from their mothers and society have a difficult time.

Its really amazing those were your comments back.

Maybe people are not settleing. Maybe if it were YOU in that situation YOU would be settling. But maybe THEY ARE HAPPY maybe THEY WANT THAT. Maybe someone woman don't want to get back into a hurtful relationship.

Its like on sex in the city, when carrie is at the 100,000 dollar wedding. The bride leans in and hugs her and says "its always better to marry someone who loves you more than you love them". Some woman want that, some women need that. Amazing some women are selfish, and want to be the ruler, and get everything they want the way they want it.

So you wouldn't do that, but who the hell are you to judge someone who does? failed marriages makes you the authority on healthy ones? I don't think so.

Everyone has to settle some. I mean a relationship requires compromise. Even if you do love every little thing about a person. Their snoring might keep you awake. There can never be perfection because no human is perfect. So everyone is settling some. Do I wish he was two inches taller? sure. But I love his eyes, addicted to his kiss, can talk to him for hours, love the same music, love to travel, conservative values, he is kind and generous. Am I settling and doomed to failure because he is only 5'7? well its not that big of a deal because im barely 5'2. Will our kids be linebackers? most likely not? sooo am i settleing? Letting go over the love of my life for two lousy inches? That is not happiness either.

[buffettbride]

So you wouldn't do that, but who the hell are you to judge someone who does? failed marriages makes you the authority on healthy ones? I don't think so.

I don't have a failed marriage, but I have gobs of life experience for someone my age (I'm not all that older than you). Not only have I been around the block but I'm the freakin' city planner. I don't consider myself an authority on anything (especially relationships) (ok, well, maybe boobies), but a lot happens between 25 and 30 that is almost indescribable. I thought when someone told me that ten years ago they were full of sh*t, too.

I'm glad I didn't use the relationships I was in pre-25 as a benchmark for what a long-term relationship, or marriage, should be like.

There is certainly some merit to what you offered about relationships, but I think telling the group of ladies here that you said here what "we" as women won't say in public is a bit off considering I know how outspoken the ladies here are.

Perhaps using the term "settling" isn't quite right, either. It's a lot of effort to put forth into dating and "finding someone" that maybe just isn't worth it because at some point it becomes very easy to tell if you want to spend more time with someone or not. The time and emotional investment just isn't worth it when you know so early on that someone isn't right for you.

I love my life, my husband, and my kids to no end, but there are certainly times when i have my "what if.." moments.

[pbans]

I said what all woman think but not dare say in public.

So you wouldn't do that, but who the hell are you to judge someone who does? failed marriages makes you the authority on healthy ones? I don't think so.

Everyone has to settle some. .

Wow....first of all, don't every assume that you are saying what all women think....seriously, that is ridiculous...

Second, having a failed relationship doesn't make you an authority on anything...BUT having failure and getting back up, brushing yourself off and moving forward makes you a better person....and it gives you LIFE EXPERIENCE....not giving in to the cynicism that lurks around every corner....THAT MAKES YOU A SUCCESS.....and gives you some lattitude to offer advice.

It's not about judging....it's about saying that your perspective changes...I'm twice your age (oh dear god, I said that outloud)....which means twice the bumpy roads, twice the smooth roads, twice the compromises, twice the experiences...I am NOT dismissing you...you come across like a very articulate, beautiful bright young woman....but listen to the sistahs.....we've got some sh*t to say, too!

As for wishing he was two inches taller....seriously, stop wishing and just love him. Don't even let that kind of thing be in your mind. If the whole world could see my husband through my eyes, they would fall in love with him, too........

And still, yes, I have those 'what if' days!~!

[flipflopgirl]

I said what all woman think but not dare say in public.

Well gee i did not know that i had lost the ability to speak! You certainly don't speak for me!!!!!

I said what all woman think but not dare say in public.



and i did not judge or dismiss you. and i think some of the women here have given some very good advice!!!!!!

and i just turned 40 in May and i am ALONE at the moment! I have never been married! i have been close 3 times!

#1 i was 24 and realized i didn't want to spend the rest of my life with him.

#2 i was a few years older. he was abusive and unfaithful! i ran like hell!

#3 we would have gotten married but he died at the age of 34. But i did get to spend 3 1/2 wonderful years with someone i loved, respected and accepted for who he was. and he did the same for me! and i will not SETTLE for anything less!

Yes there is comromise in every relationship! But my mother taught me to never settle for someone who does not make me truly happy and can't accept me FOR WHO I AM!!!!!!!

Too many people women and men try to change the other person!


and I and NOT BITTER just because i am 40 and alone! I have a great family, wonderful friends, an awesome job that allows me to travel A LOT schedule wise and $$$$$ wise!

I think i am pretty damned lucky! and if I am lucky enough some day i will meet someone again. In the mean time I am having a great time and i am not wasting one moment God gives me on this earth!!!!!!!

and i think you should print out your posts and read them when you are say 35 or 40 and see what you think then!

[LIPH]

This could get interesting. Maybe I'll just pull up a chair and observe.

[ScarletB]

This could get interesting. Maybe I'll just pull up a chair and observe.

If you guys are smart you'll really pay attention.

[chippewa]

This could get interesting. Maybe I'll just pull up a chair and observe.

If you guys are smart you'll really pay attention.

How long till the pillow fights in your underwear?

[Conolulu]

This could get interesting. Maybe I'll just pull up a chair and observe.

If you guys are smart you'll really pay attention.

How long till the pillow fights in your underwear?

SPEW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[drunkpirate66]

This could get interesting. Maybe I'll just pull up a chair and observe.

If you guys are smart you'll really pay attention.

How long till the pillow fights in your underwear?

underwear? no need . . . we are all friends here . . .

[Brown Eyed Girl]

This could get interesting. Maybe I'll just pull up a chair and observe.

If you guys are smart you'll really pay attention.

How long till the pillow fights in your underwear?

Why is a pillow fighting in Larry's underwear? And what is it fighting? And why does Larry even have a pillow in his underwear?

[Ambition At Bay]

This could get interesting. Maybe I'll just pull up a chair and observe.

If you guys are smart you'll really pay attention.

Uhh, what???

[pbans]

This could get interesting. Maybe I'll just pull up a chair and observe.

If you guys are smart you'll really pay attention.

Uhh, what???

Oh, you're one of THOSE?

[flipflopgirl]

This could get interesting. Maybe I'll just pull up a chair and observe.

If you guys are smart you'll really pay attention.

How long till the pillow fights in your underwear?

Why is a pillow fighting in Larry's underwear? And what is it fighting? And why does Larry even have a pillow in his underwear?

[Ambition At Bay]

This could get interesting. Maybe I'll just pull up a chair and observe.

If you guys are smart you'll really pay attention.

Uhh, what???

Oh, you're one of THOSE?

Thank-you-very-much