Need advice...

[I'm an Altered Boy]

drink more beer

[CapnK]

The loser is probably betting that he'll wear you down. My advice would be to try and separate the emotions from the dollars. It's a substantial amount of money, but it'll cost you money/time/energy to fight. And it'll still probably take time to get the money out of him even after you've won...again. Unless you can garnish his wages directly. Bottom line, if it still makes sense from a financial/business standpoint, fight him tooth and nail.

Either way a good swift kick in the nether regions is definitely in order, although I would recommend a nice 3-finger groin grab for a more lasting effect.

[phjrsaunt]

and kick him in the nuts!!!

[sunseeker]

The loser is probably betting that he'll wear you down. My advice would be to try and separate the emotions from the dollars. It's a substantial amount of money, but it'll cost you money/time/energy to fight. And it'll still probably take time to get the money out of him even after you've won...again. Unless you can garnish his wages directly. Bottom line, if it still makes sense from a financial/business standpoint, fight him tooth and nail.

Either way a good swift kick in the nether regions is definitely in order, although I would recommend a nice 3-finger groin grab for a more lasting effect.

That's exactly what he thinks....he has a dark dark heart....he absolutely wants to destroy me (and he had the affair!)...he even told me that he hoped I died on the operating table while giving my kidney to my brother...yes folks that's the type of man I was married to for a long time....

[phjrsaunt]

Jesus H, Shannon! What a Poopyhead!

[ScarletB]

The loser is probably betting that he'll wear you down. My advice would be to try and separate the emotions from the dollars. It's a substantial amount of money, but it'll cost you money/time/energy to fight. And it'll still probably take time to get the money out of him even after you've won...again. Unless you can garnish his wages directly. Bottom line, if it still makes sense from a financial/business standpoint, fight him tooth and nail.

Either way a good swift kick in the nether regions is definitely in order, although I would recommend a nice 3-finger groin grab for a more lasting effect.

That's exactly what he thinks....he has a dark dark heart....he absolutely wants to destroy me (and he had the affair!)...he even told me that he hoped I died on the operating table while giving my kidney to my brother...yes folks that's the type of man I was married to for a long time....

Isn't it funny how when you catch them at it they get mad at YOU???
Ferk. (a nickname a friend and I came up with, short for "effing jerk"

[LIPH]

The loser is probably betting that he'll wear you down. My advice would be to try and separate the emotions from the dollars. It's a substantial amount of money, but it'll cost you money/time/energy to fight. And it'll still probably take time to get the money out of him even after you've won...again. Unless you can garnish his wages directly. Bottom line, if it still makes sense from a financial/business standpoint, fight him tooth and nail.

Either way a good swift kick in the nether regions is definitely in order, although I would recommend a nice 3-finger groin grab for a more lasting effect.

That's exactly what he thinks....he has a dark dark heart....he absolutely wants to destroy me (and he had the affair!)...he even told me that he hoped I died on the operating table while giving my kidney to my brother...yes folks that's the type of man I was married to for a long time....

In that case, if you're going to kick him in the nuts make sure you're wearing a pair of steel tipped boots. And I hope you're ambidextrous, or whatever they call it if you can use both feet.

[phjrsaunt]

The loser is probably betting that he'll wear you down. My advice would be to try and separate the emotions from the dollars. It's a substantial amount of money, but it'll cost you money/time/energy to fight. And it'll still probably take time to get the money out of him even after you've won...again. Unless you can garnish his wages directly. Bottom line, if it still makes sense from a financial/business standpoint, fight him tooth and nail.

Either way a good swift kick in the nether regions is definitely in order, although I would recommend a nice 3-finger groin grab for a more lasting effect.

That's exactly what he thinks....he has a dark dark heart....he absolutely wants to destroy me (and he had the affair!)...he even told me that he hoped I died on the operating table while giving my kidney to my brother...yes folks that's the type of man I was married to for a long time....

In that case, if you're going to kick him in the nuts make sure you're wearing a pair of steel tipped boots. And I hope you're ambidextrous, or whatever they call it if you can use both feet.

Ambi-foot-trous?

[LIPH]

I need advice from anyone that has been through a nasty divorce or a lawyer.

Here's the gist of the problem. My ex and I divorced over three years ago. In the divorce, he agreed to take responsibility and pay certain debts. He still has not done so and now I am being threatened with a law suit. Do I just need to s*** it up and shell out another couple of thousand to my attorney to fight it...or just pay the debt (about $4000).... any advice is greatly appreciated.

To give you an idea how my mind works, I read the first sentence and thought "I've never been through a lawyer but I've ..." We'll leave it at that. lol:

[freaky4tiki]

The loser is probably betting that he'll wear you down. My advice would be to try and separate the emotions from the dollars. It's a substantial amount of money, but it'll cost you money/time/energy to fight. And it'll still probably take time to get the money out of him even after you've won...again. Unless you can garnish his wages directly. Bottom line, if it still makes sense from a financial/business standpoint, fight him tooth and nail.

Either way a good swift kick in the nether regions is definitely in order, although I would recommend a nice 3-finger groin grab for a more lasting effect.

That's exactly what he thinks....he has a dark dark heart....he absolutely wants to destroy me (and he had the affair!)...he even told me that he hoped I died on the operating table while giving my kidney to my brother...yes folks that's the type of man I was married to for a long time....

HS. call the lawyer. freaks me out that someone would use all their energy for hate like that.

[RinglingRingling]

I tend to do the things in life that cause the less stress. $4000 ain't right.

I'd pay it off myself and wish like everthing that what goes around comes around...

One day you'll get your reward for bailing both of you out. If he doesn't have it, there's no way you'll get it from him now, but maybe ONE DAY YOU WILL.

I hope for the best for you...whatever route you take.

sadly, this is where the plan falls apart. You get stuck paying the debt, and there is really no reward for doing this. If he was cheating while she was married, and welshing on his obligations now... short of a "Saul on the Road to Damascus" moment, he isn't going to change.

Any way she does this, is cash. Either lose little, or lose big (little- attorney, and making the JD holder a little fatter; or lose big- pay the debt). Can't say that I like either option, but paying his obligation is wrong on a lot of levels. and like Wayne said.. a couple leg-breakers to get his attention wouldn't be bad.

[chippewa]

I've just about lost my fight....

That's what the lawyer is for, they fight for you.

[nutmeg]

The loser is probably betting that he'll wear you down. My advice would be to try and separate the emotions from the dollars. It's a substantial amount of money, but it'll cost you money/time/energy to fight. And it'll still probably take time to get the money out of him even after you've won...again. Unless you can garnish his wages directly. Bottom line, if it still makes sense from a financial/business standpoint, fight him tooth and nail.

Either way a good swift kick in the nether regions is definitely in order, although I would recommend a nice 3-finger groin grab for a more lasting effect.

That's exactly what he thinks....he has a dark dark heart....he absolutely wants to destroy me (and he had the affair!)...he even told me that he hoped I died on the operating table while giving my kidney to my brother...yes folks that's the type of man I was married to for a long time....

Oh dear Shannon! How could anyone ever say such a thing to someone they once loved He does indeed have a very dark heart. I don't know what to advise as far as the debt. I imagine that kind of money won't come easily, so paying it yourself might cause you with a great deal of difficulty. However, it doesn't sound as if it is going to go away...I don't think he will ever pay willingly. I'd talk to the lawyer about garnishment...I hope he has a job.... Best of luck (((Shannon)))

[bocanuts]

The bad thing is yopur credit record is being hurt. I had the same thing happen to me many years ago, but over a much lesser amount of money. Definitely see an attorney about contempt proceedings.

[drunkpirate66]

I need advice from anyone that has been through a nasty divorce or a lawyer.

Here's the gist of the problem. My ex and I divorced over three years ago. In the divorce, he agreed to take responsibility and pay certain debts. He still has not done so and now I am being threatened with a law suit. Do I just need to s*** it up and shell out another couple of thousand to my attorney to fight it...or just pay the debt (about $4000).... any advice is greatly appreciated.

I'm confused. He's in debt and you're being threatened with a lawsuit? Or are you threatening with a lawsuit (that would bring about legal fees)?

If it's the latter, I'm with Auntie. As long as the legal fees is less than the debt, I'd go with the legal fees. But then again it's not my money, so do whatever you feel is wisest

It was debt he accrued when we were married. My name is on the account but it was all his s#*t. (presents for his girlfriend, etc). He agreed to pay it in our divorce settlement....but hasn't paid a cent. Now they are coming after me....because my name is still on the debt.

Call the court that oversaw your case . . . fax them the paper work and fax your creditors the paperwork from the court. if nothing else, should by you some time to find the guy and kick him in the nuts.

[STL PARROTHEAD]

The bad thing is yopur credit record is being hurt. I had the same thing happen to me many years ago, but over a much lesser amount of money. Definitely see an attorney about contempt proceedings.

yes! and for a civial suit!!!!

Oh, man.... this gets me all kinds of pi**ed off!!! I went through hell with money, debt issues with my exba**ard!!! He didn't pay ANY of what he was supposed to.... and of course my name was on everything too.....

I'm sorry for your troubles ...... go see your attorney, and he/she will give you options.....

[Skibo]

Unfortunately, you will probably need to pay the debt to clear your name with the creditors. You will then need to get a judgement against your ex for what you pay. Your lawyer at the time of the original agreement should have forced your ex to refinance all joint debt that he agreed to pay to his own individual account. Your creditors do not care about your side agreements. Unless you have a document from them that they agreed to your agreement. You are stuck. Of course laws vary state to state.

[flyboy55]

I'll pay him a visit . . . make your problems go away . . bada-bing bada-boom.

[STL PARROTHEAD]

The bad thing is yopur credit record is being hurt. I had the same thing happen to me many years ago, but over a much lesser amount of money. Definitely see an attorney about contempt proceedings.

yes! and for a civial suit!!!!

Oh, man.... this gets me all kinds of pi**ed off!!! I went through hell with money, debt issues with my exba**ard!!! He didn't pay ANY of what he was supposed to.... and of course my name was on everything too.....

I'm sorry for your troubles ...... go see your attorney, and he/she will give you options.....

oh!! I forgot to say............................

and kick him in the nuts!!!

[12vmanRick]

my x-wife's lawyer told her as long as I paid anything there was nothing she could do, HOWEVER to avoid any issue with her I paid IN FULL before the deadline.

If he is totally not paying and capable it might be worth it to pursue.