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I need advice from anyone that has been through a nasty divorce or a lawyer.

Here's the gist of the problem. My ex and I divorced over three years ago. In the divorce, he agreed to take responsibility and pay certain debts. He still has not done so and now I am being threatened with a law suit. Do I just need to s*** it up and shell out another couple of thousand to my attorney to fight it...or just pay the debt (about $4000).... any advice is greatly appreciated.

if it is in the divorce decree then he has to pay it.... fight it

I'm sorry (((Shannon)))!!! Don't have a lot of advice, I just wish you good luck with it all. I would agree with Janice.

I've just about lost my fight....

Kick him in the nuts. May not solve anything, but you'll probably feel better.

Want me to come kick him in the nuts FOR you???? Cuz I will!!!

It's not my money of course but the way I look at it you're either out $2,000 (legal fees) or $4,000 (debts he owes). I'd say fight it and get your lawyer to do something that will allow you to regain costs associated with fighting it. Can you say "GARNISHMENT"???? Hell yes!!

sunseeker wrote:I need advice from anyone that has been through a nasty divorce or a lawyer.

Here's the gist of the problem. My ex and I divorced over three years ago. In the divorce, he agreed to take responsibility and pay certain debts. He still has not done so and now I am being threatened with a law suit. Do I just need to s*** it up and shell out another couple of thousand to my attorney to fight it...or just pay the debt (about $4000).... any advice is greatly appreciated.

I'm confused. He's in debt and you're being threatened with a lawsuit? Or are you threatening with a lawsuit (that would bring about legal fees)?

If it's the latter, I'm with Auntie. As long as the legal fees is less than the debt, I'd go with the legal fees. But then again it's not my money, so do whatever you feel is wisest

jonesbeach10 wrote:

sunseeker wrote:I need advice from anyone that has been through a nasty divorce or a lawyer.

Here's the gist of the problem. My ex and I divorced over three years ago. In the divorce, he agreed to take responsibility and pay certain debts. He still has not done so and now I am being threatened with a law suit. Do I just need to s*** it up and shell out another couple of thousand to my attorney to fight it...or just pay the debt (about $4000).... any advice is greatly appreciated.

I'm confused. He's in debt and you're being threatened with a lawsuit? Or are you threatening with a lawsuit (that would bring about legal fees)?

If it's the latter, I'm with Auntie. As long as the legal fees is less than the debt, I'd go with the legal fees. But then again it's not my money, so do whatever you feel is wisest

It was debt he accrued when we were married. My name is on the account but it was all his s#*t. (presents for his girlfriend, etc). He agreed to pay it in our divorce settlement....but hasn't paid a cent. Now they are coming after me....because my name is still on the debt.

B*stard! A kick in the nuts is too good for him!

I say have your lawyer go after him! It was his debt!

I'm so sorry.

Unfortunately I see this all the time in what I do. Just because he agreed to pay it doesn't mean the credit card company or other lender absolved you of responsibility - your name is on it and as far as they're concerned you owe it. The sad thing is it's probably doing bad things to your credit rating in the meantime. I would definitely speak to your divorce attorney and see what the options are. Sounds like he's not interested in paying it or he would at least be making an attempt.

sunseeker wrote:

jonesbeach10 wrote:

sunseeker wrote:I need advice from anyone that has been through a nasty divorce or a lawyer.

Here's the gist of the problem. My ex and I divorced over three years ago. In the divorce, he agreed to take responsibility and pay certain debts. He still has not done so and now I am being threatened with a law suit. Do I just need to s*** it up and shell out another couple of thousand to my attorney to fight it...or just pay the debt (about $4000).... any advice is greatly appreciated.

I'm confused. He's in debt and you're being threatened with a lawsuit? Or are you threatening with a lawsuit (that would bring about legal fees)?

If it's the latter, I'm with Auntie. As long as the legal fees is less than the debt, I'd go with the legal fees. But then again it's not my money, so do whatever you feel is wisest

It was debt he accrued when we were married. My name is on the account but it was all his s#*t. (presents for his girlfriend, etc). He agreed to pay it in our divorce settlement....but hasn't paid a cent. Now they are coming after me....because my name is still on the debt.

Geez. and I forgot to say I really hope this works out for you!

ScarletB wrote:I'm so sorry.

Unfortunately I see this all the time in what I do. Just because he agreed to pay it doesn't mean the credit card company or other lender absolved you of responsibility - your name is on it and as far as they're concerned you owe it. The sad thing is it's probably doing bad things to your credit rating in the meantime. I would definitely speak to your divorce attorney and see what the options are. Sounds like he's not interested in paying it or he would at least be making an attempt.

I keep hoping someone would steal my identity. My credit rating would probably improve.

In this order, I'd...

1. Kick him in the nuts.
2. File a civil suit for him violating your quality of life (hosing your credit) and harassment (from the creditors) by proxy.
3. Sue him for a gazillion dollars.
4. Kick him in the nuts.

(((SHANNON)))

.......and then I'd kick him in the nuts!!!

I tend to do the things in life that cause the less stress. $4000 ain't right.

I'd pay it off myself and wish like everthing that what goes around comes around...

One day you'll get your reward for bailing both of you out. If he doesn't have it, there's no way you'll get it from him now, but maybe ONE DAY YOU WILL.

I hope for the best for you...whatever route you take.

Call Sal and Guido..

ragtopW wrote:Call Sal and Guido..

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ragtopW wrote:Call Sal and Guido..

I know a few!

ScarletB wrote:I'm so sorry.

Unfortunately I see this all the time in what I do. Just because he agreed to pay it doesn't mean the credit card company or other lender absolved you of responsibility - your name is on it and as far as they're concerned you owe it. The sad thing is it's probably doing bad things to your credit rating in the meantime. I would definitely speak to your divorce attorney and see what the options are. Sounds like he's not interested in paying it or he would at least be making an attempt.

Ditto here, we are in the same business and it is probably going to ruin your credit rating. Speak to your divorce attorney right away, he can try to help you with this. The longer you wait on this, unfortunately the more damage it will do to your credit rating.

Good luck with this.

You could pay it off, and well you could also if you felt like it pay to make him dissappear too