Hoosier PH wrote:I don't have nor want children. Honestly I don't like nor have patience for children. Some people seem to think its unbelievable that I don't want kids and feel the way I do, like its my duty to have kids.
And yes I have thought about getting "snipped" but I haven't found a doctor that will since I am not married nor have children.
There has to be an instruction manual somewhere on the internet.
And I've got one of those handy Ginsu knives...
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Hoosier PH wrote:I don't have nor want children. Honestly I don't like nor have patience for children. Some people seem to think its unbelievable that I don't want kids and feel the way I do, like its my duty to have kids.
And yes I have thought about getting "snipped" but I haven't found a doctor that will since I am not married nor have children.
There has to be an instruction manual somewhere on the internet.
Hoosier PH wrote:I don't have nor want children. Honestly I don't like nor have patience for children. Some people seem to think its unbelievable that I don't want kids and feel the way I do, like its my duty to have kids.
And yes I have thought about getting "snipped" but I haven't found a doctor that will since I am not married nor have children.
There has to be an instruction manual somewhere on the internet.
And I've got one of those handy Ginsu knives...
It slices, it dices, its.....I don't think so!
And after you snip, it will still cut this tomato into razor thin slices!
carey24 wrote:I know my limitations, one of which being that I have no patience for children
You probably don't have any pets, do you?
I don't have patience for children and I have a dog, whats your point?
I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with not wanting to have children of your own. I just thought that someone who considers children to be annoying extra baggage wouldn't want to be burdened with a pet either.
SchoolGirlHeart wrote:<<--- stepping gingerly onto my soapbox....
While I think carey24 is being too harsh about the existence of the family parking spaces, I also think some of the comments about her not wanting children are too harsh. I applaud people who recognize the fact that they don't want to raise children. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that and no one should ever feel the need to defend that decision, nor should they be ridiculed for it. There's nothing invalid about wanting to live one's life without raising a child.
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Thank You
I don't have nor want children. Honestly I don't like nor have patience for children. Some people seem to think its unbelievable that I don't want kids and feel the way I do, like its my duty to have kids.
And yes I have thought about getting "snipped" but I haven't found a doctor that will since I am not married nor have children.
Y'all are working hard to read between the lines if you see somewhere people asking anyone to defend why you don't have children. The resentment in this thread is toward people who CHOOSE to have children and thereby get a special privilege over those who don't. Read the first post again.
The poster cannot understand how someone else deserves something that she does get to enjoy. She cannot put herself in a position of taking something from others because her need is greater. Sometime in her life, she will need to ask someone else for help or assistance, and I predict it will be very hard.
Trying to stay away again.
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carolinagirl wrote:Just one more thing... I applaud you for seeing your limitations and deciding not to have children. Children require more than anything else putting someone else's needs ahead of your own -- something your post indicates you are unable to do.
Can I say "OH SNAP!" again? Or is it a one time per thread thing?
Bravo CG!
okay...2 times is good because I laughed out loud both times! (and I actually quit being mad when I read the "oh snap" part! )
SchoolGirlHeart wrote:<<--- stepping gingerly onto my soapbox....
While I think carey24 is being too harsh about the existence of the family parking spaces, I also think some of the comments about her not wanting children are too harsh. I applaud people who recognize the fact that they don't want to raise children. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that and no one should ever feel the need to defend that decision, nor should they be ridiculed for it. There's nothing invalid about wanting to live one's life without raising a child.
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Thank You
I don't have nor want children. Honestly I don't like nor have patience for children. Some people seem to think its unbelievable that I don't want kids and feel the way I do, like its my duty to have kids.
And yes I have thought about getting "snipped" but I haven't found a doctor that will since I am not married nor have children.
Y'all are working hard to read between the lines if you see somewhere people asking you defend why you don't have children.
I can see Jeff's point about not having kids though. There are some people who feel if you're not married and raising a family then your life isn't complete. I happen to disagree. I don't have the patience to raise children so I never had any. that I know of
carey24 wrote:I know my limitations, one of which being that I have no patience for children
You probably don't have any pets, do you?
I don't have patience for children and I have a dog, whats your point?
I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with not wanting to have children of your own. I just thought that someone who considers children to be annoying extra baggage wouldn't want to be burdened with a pet either.
A dog is easier/cheaper to raise. I can get into the different ways if you want me to.
Hoosier PH wrote:And yes I have thought about getting "snipped" but I haven't found a doctor that will since I am not married nor have children.
Really? Cause I've been thinking about it, but haven't looked into it yet. Didn't realize it would be an issue.
In my case yes, seriously. The way they look at it is because in the future I may change my mind since I haven't had children. I think part of it is age as well as I am 31. IF I was 40 or 45 it would probably be different.
Hoosier PH wrote:And yes I have thought about getting "snipped" but I haven't found a doctor that will since I am not married nor have children.
Really? Cause I've been thinking about it, but haven't looked into it yet. Didn't realize it would be an issue.
In my case yes, seriously. The way they look at it is because in the future I may change my mind since I haven't had children. I think part of it is age as well as I am 31. IF I was 40 or 45 it would probably be different.
That's nuts, no pun intended. (Okay, maybe a little. ) I don't even know if insurance would cover it.
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Hoosier PH wrote:And yes I have thought about getting "snipped" but I haven't found a doctor that will since I am not married nor have children.
Really? Cause I've been thinking about it, but haven't looked into it yet. Didn't realize it would be an issue.
In my case yes, seriously. The way they look at it is because in the future I may change my mind since I haven't had children. I think part of it is age as well as I am 31. IF I was 40 or 45 it would probably be different.
That's nuts, no pun intended. (Okay, maybe a little. ) I don't even know if insurance would cover it.
I didn't get as far as insurance coverage but I doubt they would cover it. I know my insurance company doesn't cover birth control. I've always wanted to ask them, would you rather pay for birth control or the cost of a baby being born?
<-- having had the discussion once or twice came to the conclusion at 36 that if it is a choice between being with someone you love and care for and it's returned, or being with someone so you can have kids, it's better to go for the former.
at 44, I am practically past the age where starting a family is an option. Just a by-the-numbers thing says I am close to 46 by the time the first kid is born, 48ish when the second arrives. 18 years on that makes it 66 at the second graduation, and 71+ by the time they graduate from college.
Most days, that math never bothers me. Some days, you just have to wonder what might have been had you been in the right place at the right time.
) I don't even know if insurance would cover it.