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pbans wrote:

nutmeg wrote: I haven't walked into a Michaels store since before Christmas after a stupid incident in their store. (I used to be a weekly visitor) I'm sure I should let it go....However I was promised a call from the local and district managers....and never heard from either one....And I'm being silly enough to stay away until I do

That's not a grudge....that's called making a statement with your hard earned money! I have a list of places I've crossed off because of poor customer service......

I agree with Paige...and I make a point of telling them I will never shop there again, nor will any of my family and friends if I can help it. It's fun seeing their jaws hit the floor.

Personally I think almost every Michael's employee should take Paige's former coworker's gun safety course...poor customer service seems to be a universal policy for the chain.

VanillaGrl wrote:No, not really. If I can't take care of the matter immediately (i.e. beating the holy crap out of the person who has wronged me) then why carry it...just let it go.

yup- that's the Texan way of thought!!!

I have a short list of people I would run over in a parking lot if I had the chance (trust me - the world would be a much better place without them). But they're extremely well-known and I'd have a lot of 'splainin to do.

But I don't hold grudges.

I do not. It is a waste of today to hold on to something like that.

I do not really hold grudges.... I will just no longer associate with the person if I was really wronged, and I know that it was in no way my fault. Some people are just poisonous, and arent really worth the time or effort.

I dont think much about it though. If that person wronged me bad enough to write them off, I am not going to waste my time or energy with any thoughts, good or bad about that person.

A lot goes into that decision though.... it really depends on how important that person was in my life to begin with, and what went wrong. It is definitely not just a coin toss decision.

sorta. fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me.

buffettbride wrote:sorta. fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me.

I bet I can think of one person that fits this bill - for both of us

ragtopW wrote:

ph4ever wrote:

aeroparrot wrote:To continue what I am saying, I feel that a good hate is sometimes good.

Can you give an example of a good hate?

child molesters..

I have THE best karma example for this type of person - that's what made me believe in karma in the first place.

That being said - I've decided life is too short (yes, I said short) so I let ALOT of things go in that past that I wouldn't have when I was younger - AND I'm a scorpio and a redhead so I tend to get angry but then the other side of me can't stay mad for long

My gramma taught me that hate is a strong word...and that i shouldnt HATE anyone...and im the same as renee...i get angry but i dont stay angry for long...life is too short...

creeky wrote:We think very alike!!! Though - Garry - dont know I want to ever get on the wrong side of you

We both know that will never happen, Jenny.
You made my B.N. circle complete on 10-10-07.

ragtopW wrote:

carolinagirl wrote:I believe in conflict resolution, so my answer is no.

In the past, my memory has been so bad that I forget things that people do to me or I think they couldn't have meant it that way, when they did!

In the last several years however, I was scammed really badly by someone I thought was a "good, good friend," mainly because she kept saying that. I had to get it through my head that it was intentional and malicious. It was a lesson I needed to learn.

Other times I've had people hold grudges against me, thinking I did something out of meanness, and it hurts. Really bad.

I'm a dog (Chinese Dog Year). I'm incredibly loyal and have a hard time letting go of someone I have ever cared about.

Oh yeah.. I am a Rat to boot...

OMG, the friend who scammed me was a Rat!!!

But I love you, Santa! You're a sweet, um, rat!

carolinagirl wrote:

ragtopW wrote:

carolinagirl wrote:I believe in conflict resolution, so my answer is no.

In the past, my memory has been so bad that I forget things that people do to me or I think they couldn't have meant it that way, when they did!

In the last several years however, I was scammed really badly by someone I thought was a "good, good friend," mainly because she kept saying that. I had to get it through my head that it was intentional and malicious. It was a lesson I needed to learn.

Other times I've had people hold grudges against me, thinking I did something out of meanness, and it hurts. Really bad.

I'm a dog (Chinese Dog Year). I'm incredibly loyal and have a hard time letting go of someone I have ever cared about.

Oh yeah.. I am a Rat to boot...

OMG, the friend who scammed me was a Rat!!!

But I love you, Santa! You're a sweet, um, rat!

I never could scam..
if I was going to make extra money I would have to find another way..

ragtopW wrote:

carolinagirl wrote:

ragtopW wrote:

carolinagirl wrote:I believe in conflict resolution, so my answer is no.

In the past, my memory has been so bad that I forget things that people do to me or I think they couldn't have meant it that way, when they did!

In the last several years however, I was scammed really badly by someone I thought was a "good, good friend," mainly because she kept saying that. I had to get it through my head that it was intentional and malicious. It was a lesson I needed to learn.

Other times I've had people hold grudges against me, thinking I did something out of meanness, and it hurts. Really bad.

I'm a dog (Chinese Dog Year). I'm incredibly loyal and have a hard time letting go of someone I have ever cared about.

Oh yeah.. I am a Rat to boot...

OMG, the friend who scammed me was a Rat!!!

But I love you, Santa! You're a sweet, um, rat!

I never could scam..
if I was going to make extra money I would have to find another way..

It wasn't money, but I call it scamming because she was good enough at it to be a real flimflammer. It involved saying one thing to your face and the opposite behind your back. And promising convincingly you're not going to do what you have every intention of doing.

ragtopW wrote:


I never could scam..
if I was going to make extra money I would have to find another way..

Oh I couldn't either. It would show, just looking at me, and that's just very wrong, to scam someone.

But, ya know, some people lie to themselves enough, they start to believe it !! Thus, justifying the grudge, taking no blame themselves...

Same for a grudge, you carry it long enough, it can invade your very being, and that's heavy.

Maybe follow in Earl's lead. Make a list of the people you hold a grudge against. Probably, should it be numerous, you should look in the mirror, and remember Kharma...

Nah. No grudges. I don't like wasting my energy on people that I don't care about. It's hard enough finding time for the people I do care about.

PIA wrote:My gramma taught me that hate is a strong word...and that i shouldnt HATE anyone...and im the same as renee...i get angry but i dont stay angry for long...life is too short...

Funny how those 2 phrases go together.

LIPH wrote:

PIA wrote:My gramma taught me that hate is a strong word...and that i shouldnt HATE anyone...and im the same as renee...i get angry but i dont stay angry for long...life is too short...

Funny how those 2 phrases go together.

Like peanut butter and jelly.

ph4ever wrote:

buffettbride wrote:sorta. fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me.

I bet I can think of one person that fits this bill - for both of us

Yuppers Miss Mommy.

No grudges here either...life is too short.

buffettbride wrote:

LIPH wrote:

PIA wrote:My gramma taught me that hate is a strong word...and that i shouldnt HATE anyone...and im the same as renee...i get angry but i dont stay angry for long...life is too short...

Funny how those 2 phrases go together.

Like peanut butter and jelly.

But somehow I think I wouldn't want to be on either Renee or Cory's bad side.