sunseeker wrote:Sometimes it is like a badge of honor...."look at me...look at what I endured"...I talked about this in myspace blog one time...
Yup!!
Although, after I typed it I realized that I talked about stuff on myspace blog....I guess I rat myself out on there....
but i am sure not in the way that i am rolling my eyes about!!!
Connie...you are so right...i don't feel compelled to spend my energy on those types of people...i'd rather spend twice the energy trying to help someone who truly needs it!
That is until their crys for help seem to be like someone crying wolf. You can only help someone that won't help themselves so far then you have to distance yourself because they are doing nothing but playing a game
sunseeker wrote:now he's got me pondering...
WHY do I post so much on my blog?? Am I really just seeking attention...I've always looked it as my journal...getting my thoughts down in the written form so I can examine myself and my behavior...but WHY exactly have I chosen to do it in a public format...
I'm I really that needy? Do I need that affirmation from others?
sometimes it does us good to question ourselves - you needy heifer you!!!
Well...(said in my best Bubba voice) I've been on sabbatical.
sunseeker wrote:now he's got me pondering...
WHY do I post so much on my blog?? Am I really just seeking attention...I've always looked it as my journal...getting my thoughts down in the written form so I can examine myself and my behavior...but WHY exactly have I chosen to do it in a public format...
I'm I really that needy? Do I need that affirmation from others?
sometimes it does us good to question ourselves - you needy heifer you!!!
and I think some people really enjoy reading my rants/thoughts....
or at least they say they do...
But then again am I doing it for that reason...for my ego??
sunseeker wrote:now he's got me pondering...
WHY do I post so much on my blog?? Am I really just seeking attention...I've always looked it as my journal...getting my thoughts down in the written form so I can examine myself and my behavior...but WHY exactly have I chosen to do it in a public format...
I'm I really that needy? Do I need that affirmation from others?
sometimes it does us good to question ourselves - you needy heifer you!!!
and I think some people really enjoy reading my rants/thoughts....
or at least they say they do...
But then again am I doing it for that reason...for my ego??
siiiiiggghhh....self examination is a b**ch
yeah it is - (((((Shannon)))))
Well...(said in my best Bubba voice) I've been on sabbatical.
sunseeker wrote:now he's got me pondering...
WHY do I post so much on my blog?? Am I really just seeking attention...I've always looked it as my journal...getting my thoughts down in the written form so I can examine myself and my behavior...but WHY exactly have I chosen to do it in a public format...
I'm I really that needy? Do I need that affirmation from others?
sometimes it does us good to question ourselves - you needy heifer you!!!
(((((((((((((((((((SHANNON)))))))))))))))))) love ya girl!!!!
"While the rest of the species is descended from apes, redheads are descended from cats." Mark Twain
sunseeker wrote:now he's got me pondering...
WHY do I post so much on my blog?? Am I really just seeking attention...I've always looked it as my journal...getting my thoughts down in the written form so I can examine myself and my behavior...but WHY exactly have I chosen to do it in a public format...
I'm I really that needy? Do I need that affirmation from others?
Now I have to check you out on your blog....this ought to be interesting.....
what the link?
-------------------------------------------------------- There is no place like Cabo in the winter
sunseeker wrote:Sometimes it is like a badge of honor...."look at me...look at what I endured"...I talked about this in myspace blog one time...
Yup!!
Although, after I typed it I realized that I talked about stuff on myspace blog....I guess I rat myself out on there....
but i am sure not in the way that i am rolling my eyes about!!!
Connie...you are so right...i don't feel compelled to spend my energy on those types of people...i'd rather spend twice the energy trying to help someone who truly needs it!
That is until their crys for help seem to be like someone crying wolf. You can only help someone that won't help themselves so far then you have to distance yourself because they are doing nothing but playing a game
I agree!
Me too!
"While the rest of the species is descended from apes, redheads are descended from cats." Mark Twain
bumper wrote:
why do some folks divulge such highly personal information about themselves with the consequence of losing control of such sensitive information? honestly, I just don't get it.
From another thread, this seems to answer this question, esp. d & e:
Conflict can be heightened online by what is known as the “disinhibition effect”, a phenomenon that psychologist, Dr. John Suler, has written extensively about. Suler writes,
It's well known that people say and do things in cyberspace that they wouldn't ordinarily say or do in the face-to-face world. They loosen up, feel more uninhibited, and express themselves more openly. Researchers call this the "disinhibition effect." It's a double-edged sword. Sometimes people share very personal things about themselves. They reveal secret emotions, fears, wishes. Or they show unusual acts of kindness and generosity. On the other hand, the disinhibition effect may not be so benign. Out spills rude language and harsh criticisms, anger, hatred, even threats. (Suler, 2002)
Suler explains that the disinihibition effect is caused by or heightened by the following features of online communication:
a) Anonymity - no one knows who you are on the net, and so you are free to say whatever you want without anyone knowing it’s you who said it.
b) Invisibility - you don't have to worry about how you physically look or sound to other people when you say something. You don't have to worry about how others look or sound when you say something to them. “Seeing a frown, a shaking head, a sigh, a bored expression, and many other subtle and not so subtle signs of disapproval or indifference can slam the breaks on what people are willing to express.” (Suler, 2002)
c) Delayed reactions - you can say anything you think and feel without censorship at any time, including in the middle of the night when you’re most tired and upset, leave immediately without waiting for a response, and possibly never return - in the extreme this can feel to someone like an emotional “hit and run”.
d) The perception that the interaction is happening in your head - with the absence of visual and auditory cues you may feel as though the interaction is occurring in your head. Everyone thinks all kinds of things about other people in their minds that they would never say to someone’s face - online, you can say things you’d otherwise only think.
e) Neutralizing of status - in face-to-face interactions, you may be intimidated to say something to someone because of their job, authority, gender, or race. Because this is not visible to you online, you feel freer to say what ever you want to anyone.
f) Your own personality style may be heightened online - for example, if your communication style tends to be reactive or angry, you may be more reactive or angry online.
bumper wrote:
why do some folks divulge such highly personal information about themselves with the consequence of losing control of such sensitive information? honestly, I just don't get it.
From another thread, this seems to answer this question, esp. d & e:
Conflict can be heightened online by what is known as the “disinhibition effect”, a phenomenon that psychologist, Dr. John Suler, has written extensively about. Suler writes,
It's well known that people say and do things in cyberspace that they wouldn't ordinarily say or do in the face-to-face world. They loosen up, feel more uninhibited, and express themselves more openly. Researchers call this the "disinhibition effect." It's a double-edged sword. Sometimes people share very personal things about themselves. They reveal secret emotions, fears, wishes. Or they show unusual acts of kindness and generosity. On the other hand, the disinhibition effect may not be so benign. Out spills rude language and harsh criticisms, anger, hatred, even threats. (Suler, 2002)
Suler explains that the disinihibition effect is caused by or heightened by the following features of online communication:
a) Anonymity - no one knows who you are on the net, and so you are free to say whatever you want without anyone knowing it’s you who said it.
b) Invisibility - you don't have to worry about how you physically look or sound to other people when you say something. You don't have to worry about how others look or sound when you say something to them. “Seeing a frown, a shaking head, a sigh, a bored expression, and many other subtle and not so subtle signs of disapproval or indifference can slam the breaks on what people are willing to express.” (Suler, 2002)
c) Delayed reactions - you can say anything you think and feel without censorship at any time, including in the middle of the night when you’re most tired and upset, leave immediately without waiting for a response, and possibly never return - in the extreme this can feel to someone like an emotional “hit and run”.
d) The perception that the interaction is happening in your head - with the absence of visual and auditory cues you may feel as though the interaction is occurring in your head. Everyone thinks all kinds of things about other people in their minds that they would never say to someone’s face - online, you can say things you’d otherwise only think.
e) Neutralizing of status - in face-to-face interactions, you may be intimidated to say something to someone because of their job, authority, gender, or race. Because this is not visible to you online, you feel freer to say what ever you want to anyone.
f) Your own personality style may be heightened online - for example, if your communication style tends to be reactive or angry, you may be more reactive or angry online.
lets see if we can twist that info a bit.
Anonymity= over developed Id, under developed ego, because there is no checks and balances I can let the dark side out.
Invisibilty = lack of responsibility, because there is a lack of this, I know can do this.
Delayed reaction= opportunistic, taking advantage of system to meet your own needs sometimes at the expense of others.
Neutralizing of status= being a chickensh!t, afraid to stand up for yourself in public not because of who they are but because of who you are.
-------------------------------------------------------- There is no place like Cabo in the winter
bumper wrote:Don't I get some kinda prize fer not taking the "be specific" bait?
I wasn't the least bit surprized you didn't fall for it...
I agree, tho, I'm amazed at some of the subjects people have asked advice, from..well, strangers, people that have not met in person...here, on this very discussion board.
When it goes from full to crescent...I move in and out of tune...Everlasting Moon....
love ya girl!!!!
"While the rest of the species is descended from apes, redheads are descended from cats." Mark Twain
