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what would you tell them?

I mean as advice or how much support to give. He's an adult although not fully independent yet.

I have no idea, but it might depend how talented he is?
How dedicated?

From an Indian perspective, the parents would try to dissuade the child from that and try to convince them in becoming a doctor, lawyer, or engineer.

I, being brought up here, hated that when I was getting the "speech". I would make sure that the child has a backup in case the music career doesn't take hold.

springparrot wrote:I have no idea, but it might depend how talented he is?
How dedicated?

I think he has a long way to go and I suggested very strongly he continue with his studies and keep his day job. The band he is in however is very good. They have a tour of several House of Blues' and other places over the summer and a demo being put out by somebody affiliated with HOB. I will see a show in several weeks and take it from there. I will fully support his music if he finds a way to continue with his education. If I think they have a serious chance then we'll talk some more. Yikes. It is much easier dealing with 5yos.

aeroparrot wrote:From an Indian perspective, the parents would try to dissuade the child from that and try to convince them in becoming a doctor, lawyer, or engineer.

I, being brought up here, hated that when I was getting the "speech". I would make sure that the child has a backup in case the music career doesn't take hold.

You clearly think much like me. I want him to follow his dream but I want a back up plan in place that will pay the bills. If he stays in school I will help with some of the bills like I was doing up to this point.

OceanCityGirl wrote:

springparrot wrote:I have no idea, but it might depend how talented he is?
How dedicated?

I think he has a long way to go and I suggested very strongly he continue with his studies and keep his day job. The band he is in however is very good. They have a tour of several House of Blues' and other places over the summer and a demo being put out by somebody affiliated with HOB. I will see a show in several weeks and take it from there. I will fully support his music if he finds a way to continue with his education. If I think they have a serious chance then we'll talk some more. Yikes. It is much easier dealing with 5yos.

I agree with everything you are doing.
It sounds like they are pretty good....you should be proud

contact some of the Trop rock guys, they can talk to the Artist in your home
about the business..
Or Kevin Montgomery might Email them and give them some idea of
"the life" (Kevins Dad is Bob.. who wrote songs with Buddy Holly)
We have some pholks who (like myself with Kevin)
know people who are, well.... they are making a living but not at top shelf
status that might give some input..

With those kinds of limits can he still pursue the music if they have a bit of traveling occasionally to do? I was thinking of getting him to do one semester of online classes. By the time the semester is over we will have a better sense of where this is going.

aeroparrot wrote:From an Indian perspective, the parents would try to dissuade the child from that and try to convince them in becoming a doctor, lawyer, or engineer.

I, being brought up here, hated that when I was getting the "speech". I would make sure that the child has a backup in case the music career doesn't take hold.

I think the perspective is pretty common with parents coming from Asia. Personally, I was lucky my parents were wise enough to realize that I couldn't become a doctor, lawyer, etc. A very good idea, Ravi.

ragtopW wrote:contact some of the Trop rock guys, they can talk to the Artist in your home
about the business..
Or Kevin Montgomery might Email them and give them some idea of
"the life" (Kevins Dad is Bob.. who wrote songs with Buddy Holly)
We have some pholks who (like myself with Kevin)
know people who are, well.... they are making a living but not at top shelf
status that might give some input..

This is the approach I am considering if it gets very serious. So far he hasn't suggested quitting everything else. But I wonder what their tour schedule will be like during the school year. And the whole not much of a living thing won't work with this son. He's into being a purist right now. He believes they shouldn't pursue music for money but rather art. Oh to be young again. Hehe. And for a local band with a bunch of young guys they're getting paid ok. I don't like to use the purse string thing here but he might not be able to afford to pursue this if he wasn't living at home and getting help with a few minor things.

OceanCityGirl wrote: This is the approach I am considering if it gets very serious. So far he hasn't suggested quitting everything else. But I wonder what their tour schedule will be like during the school year. And the whole not much of a living thing won't work with this son. He's into being a purist right now. He believes they shouldn't pursue music for money but rather art. Oh to be young again. Hehe. And for a local band with a bunch of young guys they're getting paid ok. I don't like to use the purse string thing here but he might not be able to afford to pursue this if he wasn't living at home and getting help with a few minor things.

let us know how things progress....

OceanCityGirl wrote:what would you tell them?

I told mine to stop playing the same chord over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over!!!

OceanCityGirl wrote:what would you tell them?

practice, practice, Practice!

OceanCityGirl wrote: I want him to follow his dream but I want a back up plan in place that will pay the bills. If he stays in school I will help with some of the bills like I was doing up to this point.

Sounds like you are doing it right.
Encourage him to continue school, not just as something to pay the bills or get to a specific career, but as something to keep his options open. Offering to pay bills if he's in school, and making it clear that he is on his own if he is not in school sends a good message; the decision is his, but the path of least resistance is to stay in school. Good luck!

I would say if he ever gets rich he should pay the mini-mart back. (Yessir)

IrishPirate wrote:

OceanCityGirl wrote:what would you tell them?

I told mine to stop playing the same chord over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over!!!

Mine took up the drums.. and was pretty good, for the most part. Hardly worthy of a serious band career.

let him/her sleep in the yard for a couple nights before it gets too warm. tell them that's where they will be if they don't make good. just need to incentivize it for them...

RinglingRingling wrote:let him/her sleep in the yard for a couple nights before it gets too warm. tell them that's where they will be if they don't make good. just need to incentivize it for them...

hehehe. I should have done that a few months ago. Or I'll just pick a rainy night.

z-man wrote:

OceanCityGirl wrote:what would you tell them?

practice, practice, Practice!

OceanCityGirl wrote: I want him to follow his dream but I want a back up plan in place that will pay the bills. If he stays in school I will help with some of the bills like I was doing up to this point.

Sounds like you are doing it right.
Encourage him to continue school, not just as something to pay the bills or get to a specific career, but as something to keep his options open. Offering to pay bills if he's in school, and making it clear that he is on his own if he is not in school sends a good message; the decision is his, but the path of least resistance is to stay in school. Good luck!

Agreed, and in the same vein, how about encouraging him to pursue an education in the business side of the musical scene? That way he's getting an education that could lead to a career and it will give him knowledge of both sides of the music industry. I would think that that could be a valuable asset.

Brown Eyed Girl wrote:

z-man wrote:

OceanCityGirl wrote:what would you tell them?

practice, practice, Practice!

OceanCityGirl wrote: I want him to follow his dream but I want a back up plan in place that will pay the bills. If he stays in school I will help with some of the bills like I was doing up to this point.

Sounds like you are doing it right.
Encourage him to continue school, not just as something to pay the bills or get to a specific career, but as something to keep his options open. Offering to pay bills if he's in school, and making it clear that he is on his own if he is not in school sends a good message; the decision is his, but the path of least resistance is to stay in school. Good luck!

Agreed, and in the same vein, how about encouraging him to pursue an education in the business side of the musical scene? That way he's getting an education that could lead to a career and it will give him knowledge of both sides of the music industry. I would think that that could be a valuable asset.

And a good addition to the business classes he's taking